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Am I mentally sick due to my hyper sexual drive?

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asked Oct 11, 2014 in Questions by Rahul_devgan (120 points)
edited Oct 11, 2014 by longhands1

I am 23 years old and have a happening sex life. I have my girlfriend and we have sex two days a week. The problem is I feel this strange urge to have sex all the time. While my girlfriend is active sexually, she cannot take it more than 4 times a day. Kindly note this is not bragging. It is my genuine problem. I have even masturbated after coming back from having sex with her.

This frustration led me into having sexual relations with another girl who seems ok with having sex 5-6 times a day and can meet me any day of week. Me and my girlfriend are in open relationship and I haven't told to her about this girl but I have plans of telling her soon.

Now, here is the real problem. I have developed sexual relationship with my married aunt as my uncle is in army and mostly posted out station. She is a real nymphomaniac and I share crazy and intense sexual moments with her. We have been completing our wildest fantasies together, plus she is always willing to have more and more sex all the time so I feel like I got a true companion to satiate me.

But, there are times when I feel ashamed of myself. Is it is just a habit or actually a mental disorder. This thing is ruining my life. I cannot concentrate on my career as all the time, I am thinking about sex and my aunt too keeps calling me every time.

Have i made a mess of my life? Kindly advice how I should proceed.

 

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Actually, first of all congratulations on successfully cheating your girlfriend! Heartiest congratulations! Are you guys into a serious relationship or is it just a 'friends with benefits' relationship? Tell me something, how would you feel if your girlfriend comes and tells you tomorrow that because you're not able to satisfy her, she has gotten laid with another boy and with her uncle of hers who has a crazy sex drive?

Not good right! When would you realize that it is not just sex which is there in a relationship, there has to be love, care, mutual understanding and everything?

Isn't sex twice a week enough for you? And that too four times a day! I wonder would I be able to sustain so much whenever I get laid, though I agree that everyone has a different way of thinking and behaving!

By the way, I genuinely suggest you to break off with your second girlfriend and be loyal to the first one!

And speaking about your aunt. Well, if at all your uncle comes to know about this affair of yours, he will shoot you with his armour! I know what army men are ! Many of my uncles are decorated officers in the armed forces! They are jolly but equally ferocious when it comes to the business!

Dude, don't spoil your aunt's married life! She is married and has a healthy life! If at all she approaches to you, tell her politely that you are now interested in shaping your career and that you don't want any distraction, so you want to keep away from her! Still if she is insisting, ignore her. Your ignorance would speak for itself!

This what I feel you should do. And yes, be loyal to your girlfriend! Learn what is meant by loyalty!

Take care, god bless you!
answered Oct 11, 2014 by confusioninmind (1,310 points)
commented Oct 12, 2014 by Rahul_devgan (120 points)
Do i need to see a counselor?
Its like i have little control over the urge :(
commented Oct 12, 2014 by confusioninmind (1,310 points)
Rahul no counsellor can help you unless you yourself are willing to change.

I don't think you need to see a counsellor for something like this.

There are some changes which you have to make it yourself! No tom, dick or harry can help you out unless you are in a frame to change yourself!

Think of what is right, or wrong, and act wisely
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Hey Rahul ,
First of all I don't want to judge you in anyway, you are acting on impulses that are probably beyond your control
But let me tell you my experience with a guy I met about a year back , he, like you had a huge amount of sexual energy and had sex with multiple women and even visited prostitutes , and no matter what he did , he just couldn't control it, he had even tried masturbating, but that just gave him relief for about 2 hours max , he came to me and told this story, so I checked his blood, he is HIV positive with herpes and his thyroid levels were over the roof
The guy had hyper thyroidism and that's what kept him pushing his sexual urges over and over again

Do you really want to end up like this guy??thats your choice
And yes, get your thyroid levels checked, maybe your cure lies in there
answered Oct 12, 2014 by Drdrip09 (2,805 points)
commented Oct 12, 2014 by Rahul_devgan (120 points)
I use protection and am conscious about STDs also i haven't been to any visit prostitutes.
Thanks for the other advice though i will get my thyroid level checked :)
commented Oct 12, 2014 by Drdrip09 (2,805 points)
Don't worry man, finding out what the problem is in itself winning half the war
And doctors can help you , just don't shy away , doctors have seen people with worse problems , I have atleast
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From your description what I guess is, you have developed impulsive sexual disorder. Therefore, you need special counseling for the same. You may consult psychologist for the same (online counseling is good idea). There is nothing wrong in your girlfriend as every girl has its capacity to have sex (4 to 5 times a day is quite difficult to perform for girls, exceptions are always there). Your other two sex partners are not the solution for your urge to have sex as they are not permanent and can even create a problem for you if you caught. If you want to marry with your girlfriend then you should not disclose your sexual facts with her as it will definitely hurt her and can lead to break up. You have two options to get rid of your habit either Self-control or Professional help. If you have strong determination and willpower than first option is brilliant and you can go with it otherwise see a doctor.
answered Oct 13, 2014 by alpesh kapdi (19,085 points)

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