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I want to have a threesome with my wife. Need your advice.

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asked Sep 16, 2015 in Questions by Raj26672 (145 points)
edited Sep 17, 2015 by longhands1

We are a couple. I am 42years old and my wife is 36 years old. Many days back, I had asked wife for 3some fun, but she refused. Now I have found one guy while chatting.

One day, I asked my wife to talk on the phone to him and she agreed and spoke to him. Now she is ready for 3some sex. The guy is far away from our place.

I need your advise. Is it okay to plan for a threesome? How do we proceed? Is there any danger? What precautions should we take?

 

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Raj,

There is a thin line between a fantasy and reality. The problem with a fantasy is that you keep repeating it and it soon wants to become a reality. You have asked whether your fantasy is workable? A threesome is only possible if your wife is completely geared to the idea of having sex with another man. If she has never had sex with anyone other than you, it will take her time to get used to this idea. You have conquered the difficult part, which is getting your wife to accede and imagine a threesome.

There are a few areas you need to think about. Why is your wife willing to experience the cock of another man? Is she dissatisfied with your love making and the size of your cock? Is she bored with a one man relationship? You will have to give serious thought about your relationship together. Remember such experiences are never a one-time experience and tend to take deep root later. Have you spoken to your wife about her reaction if you have sex with another woman in her presence?

Sex is played out in the head and is more exciting to imagine that the actual reality.

I will not be judgemental. I shall not tell you about the joys of a threesome, (lets leave that to your imagination) but shall give you some pointers on its  downside.

Jealousy always affects a couple that’s trying to have a threesome. Insecure thoughts will torment both of you, if sex hasn’t been good for a while, but becomes mind blowing after the arrival of the third person. Questions like those given below will haunt you. “Is she not interested in me anymore?” “Am I just a scapegoat stuck in the middle of these two lusty lovers?” “She wants him with us because he’s better looking and has a bigger cock than me?” “She is kissing him a lot more than she is kissing me, is she falling for him?”

These are just a few of the innumerable thoughts that can race around both your heads, if you involve a third person into your bed. You may not like this new man fucking your woman, after just a brief talk or a single meeting. A threesome leaves a lot of room for doubt and sad thoughts.

There are many couples who’ve experimented with threesome sex and ended up in other people’s beds behind each other’s backs! There is a good chance that this could happen, especially if both are not keen on being with each other for the rest of your lives. 

Play carefully.

answered Sep 17, 2015 by longhands1 (64,215 points)
edited Sep 17, 2015 by longhands1
commented Sep 17, 2015 by Raj26672 (145 points)
Thanks for reply. About threesome we are discussing form many days about 7-8 years. Earlier she was not agree. Then we stop the topic. Now she is ready. She told person should not be from our known circle. He should be stranger and away from our city.  By chance one person met on chatting. She want to do once. She never had any type of friendship earlier.
We are open to each other (me and wife) and discussing any type of matter openly. Their may be many couples who experienced 3som. I will be thankful in any of them shared his views and experience.
commented Sep 17, 2015 by longhands1 (64,215 points)

You have crossed the most important barrier - that of your wife agreeing. You must meet the person first, before having sex, to decide if your wife is okay with him. Have you considered whether you will join them in the sex act or allow them to have sex by themselves. Do ensure that he uses condoms to avoid any STDs. Best of Luck.

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Raj, I think you shall try it out. Unless you do it yourself it's hard to tell if you will enjoy it or not.

Looking at your ages, looks like you must have been married for long enough and now you can explore it further. Speak to your wife and try to understand her expectations from threesome. Then speak to the guy also and see if his area of interest and abilities matches with your wife's...

Few things you make sure of are his family background and his economic status. Sure you don't want to get stuck with a sexually meniac or a guy looking for financial benefits by blackmailing you later.

Also if possible get him tested at least for HIV in your presence if you are planning for unprotected sex.

Lastly plan your threesome at a secure place. Avoid going to his place where there is potential risk of getting video recorded.

I'm sure, threesome will be enjoyable, although I haven't tried. Play with your rules, but respect other two as well. Also, prepare yourself for some downside like affection from your wife to him if he satisfies her well. Don't be jealous of him, as this is what you wish for... To see and enjoy wife with a stud making love...

All the best and do let us know about your progress...
answered Sep 18, 2015 by k.shastri (1,035 points)
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The first precaution you should take is to not get involved with any strangers!!! What you are thinking of doing carries plenty of risks, so why had one risk that is absolutely unnecessary? You don't know this guy, you've only spoken on the phone, so what can you tell us about him except he sounds okay.

Threesome sex can be tremendous fun, but you have to ask yourself a few searching questions, and then ask those same questions to your wife. First and foremost, how will you feel if you see her get more enjoyment from the other guy than she ever gets from you? Knowing how guys are so tensed about penis size, what are you going to do if the other guy turns out have a bigger clock than yours? How are you going to deal with her if she starts to form an emotional attachment to this guy? Perhaps the most frightening of all, what are you going to do if this guy is physically capable of dominating you both?
The fantasy of seeing your wife acting like a porno star is all very well, when it becomes a reality, you may feel very differently. If you think you can deal with all these things without any jealousy or envy, then go ahead, but not with a stranger please!!!

Okay, if you ask those questions of yourself, and you still think it's a good idea, now try asking the same questions to your wife.

I'm not saying that you shouldn't have a threesome, if you both really want it, but if your wife is only agreeing to this to please you, then you're using coercion, and that is never right. Think very carefully before you get into something that could destroy your marriage.

I'm sure some readers will feel a sense of surprise at my reply to this question, as I am a complete libertine in my views. The point is, I believe that we should do what we want, but only at the consent and agreement of our partners!!! Unless your wife really wants this as much as you do, you shouldn't even be considering it.

Salma

answered Sep 18, 2015 by sexysalma (14,920 points)
commented Sep 18, 2015 by Raj26672 (145 points)
Thanks all for valuable suggestions. Friends I was our first time and you guided us. We drop the idea and will see later on if found good friend.
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Hi,

I will keep it simple n easy n to d point(N i feel this is what all trying 2 say with a little bit of garnishing of if-then-else-but) You are thinking of digging ur own graveyard. What left to be seen is that when u fall into it, n then for how long will it take for u to perish. Threesome is no doubt fun but its actually more difficult practically n before you can have d actual fun u might see ur Queen making ur rival win.
answered Sep 20, 2015 by letschat0921 (785 points)
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Dear Raj26672,


     Its great idea to have threesome and spice up your maaried life if both of you and your wife wants to enjoy it. But the point of concern is who will be third one.

    You mention that he meets you while chatting. Firstly you should make sure that who is he and later on he will not blackmailed you. Online friends aren't trustworthy in most of cases. So be very aware of that.

     The other thing is about health. There is risk to have STD/STI's or HIV. So if he is sexually healthy then its okay otherwise condom is must. But you are thinking about having threesome and its clear that this point you are broad minded in enjoying sex. So you will lick each other kiss and surely there will be transmission of your body fluids. So its necessary that you all will be Sexually healthy otherwise its going to create problem to you. If you are sure he will not blackmail you later on and is healthy then go for it and enjoy sex with him. It will be fun. But with unknown person its little bit risky. Just ask him to go for medical checkups so that there will be no issue regarding your health later on. Just enjoy yourself .!
answered Sep 21, 2015 by Manoj4u (6,155 points)
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hi Raj,
it is understandable that boredom has creeped in your sex life hence you are looking for some fun. but man what fun you will get by getting your wife being laid by some one else? it will only add to complexity and insecurity. sooner or later you will start comparing yourself to him. moreover the taste and excitement of sexual adventurism is like Frankenstein's monster. what if your wife decides to charter herself alone next time with this guy or with another guy?

answer to the question how should you proceed depends on you. do you want it for just once? if so i would suggest you to go to a hill station or tourist place and have it done in a good hotel. this will ensure secrecy and no unwanted trailing/blackmailing by this guy. if you want it regularly, i would suggest you first meet the guy yourself alone, then along with your wife in a public place to see if she wishes to go ahead with him and only then proceed for sex at your home/hotel/any place of choice.

all things said and done, you should ensure that your wife doesn't get pregnant by this guy nor she should contract any disease. precautions towards the same should be strictly adhered at all times.

choice is all yours. all the best
answered Sep 21, 2015 by alfa.romeo007 (185 points)
commented Sep 22, 2015 by Raj26672 (145 points)
I am agree with all. No one can truest blindly on someone. Earlier  we plan to meet once for 3som. So I asked for suggestions. I am thankful to all for good suggestions.
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I have also done threesome sex recently, with my wife and my best friend. I asked my wife and she agreed to do it and few months ago we had threesome sex in my house.

We have enjoyed a lot with my wife. She wants to do it again for sure.

So go for it with your wife's consent.

answered Apr 9 by mantrirahul109 (150 points)

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