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I saw my mother on porn website. What should I do?

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asked Oct 30, 2015 in Questions by Eshajaiswal786 (120 points)
edited Nov 1, 2015 by longhands1

I am a girl, but watch a lot of porn and love it. One day, as usual I was visiting a porn site which I do daily. I saw their advt. "local moms are ready to fuck". Out of curiousity I clicked on the Site. There were a few sign up procedures which I did just for fun. After I finished signing in, I accessed the Site.

I was shocked to see a picture of my mother showing her boobs. I saw pictures of her posted in 4 different poses. All those pictures were photographed by someone else. She was looking like a porn actor.

I am shocked and confused how her nude photos are on the internet. Could it be possible that those photos are cropped and superimposed or are they really of my mother nude? How to approach this topic with my mother?

Guys please do not ask me for the name of the Site. I shall not tell you. But your suggestions how to handle this are most welcome.

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The pics may have been taken by your father!
And now downloading from any unknown sources or checking any unknown file mean!
Giving 3rd person to access our privacy !
May be some one hacked your father/mother phone and got her photos!
Ans sold it out on website!
answered Oct 30, 2015 by karan786 (130 points)
commented Nov 1, 2015 by Eshajaiswal786 (120 points)
seriously ???
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I'm sure you are not the 1st person that this has happened to, and no doubt, you will not be the last.

You haven't mentioned whether your mum is divorced, widowed, or still married. If she is divorced or widowed, then what she has done is really up to her. If she is still married, then she is either contemplating (or is already) cheating on her husband, or she's doing this with his knowledge, and, presumably, his consent. If she's contemplating (or actually) cheating on your father, then you have cause for concern, as, if this gets uncovered, it will cause serious problems in the family, if not tear it apart.

Something that you have to accept is the fact that, your mother is an adult, and is capable of making her own decisions. You may not like them, and you may even disagree with them quite vehemently, but in the final analysis, she has a right to do what she wants to do, as long as she's not harming other people. I suppose it could be argued that she is mentally harming you, and if your friends were to find her pictures on the same website that you obviously enjoy, it could cause you all kinds of social problems.

You ask if these pictures could have been faked by using photoshop or some such photo editing package? Anything is possible, with the complexity of photo editing software, but as there is no shortage of women who are prepared to do this kind of thing, why would anybody bother? I'm afraid to say that if your mother's photos appear to show her naked or semi naked, it's probably because that's how they were taken. It is a case that sometimes celebrities get treated to a lot of trickery in order to embarrass them, or to cater to the fantasies of those guys who spend far too much of their time locked in a darkened bedroom, wanking themselves to death; but the average housewife? Sorry, no one would be bothered when there are so many of them out there that will do it without hesitation.

Now comes the tricky bit, what to do about it? It's really up to you, if you want to mention it to your mum that you have seen her compromising pictures on a porno site. The reality is, that even if she knows that you seen them, there will be nothing she can do about them now. Once these pictures are out there, there's no way of retracting them. If you put pictures in the public domain, or allow yourself to be put in the public domain, it's letting the genie out of the bottle, and you can't get it back in again!!! I suppose the most fortunate thing is that, the pictures on these websites change frequently, as there is no shortage of women who are prepared to do anything in front of the camera.

The one thing I would not do, is to talk to your father about it. If he goes on in blissful ignorance, so much the better, but if you are the one that brings it to his attention, you will become piggy in the middle. Your dad will, subconsciously at least, resent you for bringing this to his attention (most men hate being forced to confront situations that they would rather not have to deal with), and your mother will hate you for betraying her. You can talk to her about it, if you have the courage to do so, but even then, it may cause resentment on her part. If I was in your position, I would just leave them to get on with their lives, and make their own mistakes. You probably have enough on your plate as a young girl, without adding unnecessary stresses of family arguments and possible breakup.

I'm sorry I can't be more help, but sometimes there's no easy answers. Just don't let yourself be inadvertently the cause of a major upset.

Good luck,

Salma
answered Oct 30, 2015 by sexysalma (14,945 points)
commented Oct 31, 2015 by Idontknow. (800 points)
Good answer Salma, measured and to the point.  The original questions was void of some detail and you covered every possible aspect.  Not easy being in her shoes and will require some strength poise and calmness.
commented Oct 31, 2015 by karan786 (130 points)
hmm!
good answer!
commented Nov 1, 2015 by Eshajaiswal786 (120 points)
i want to tell she is married !
mean my father is there!
and we are rich enough to full fill our need!
commented Nov 1, 2015 by sexysalma (14,945 points)

Well, you told us that your mum and dad are still married, which at least clarifies one of the questions I had in my mind. To be honest though, it doesn't alter my view as to what you should do about this situation. You can't do anything about the pictures, they will not only have been seen by lots of people, probably many thousands, but if they are exciting to look at, they will have been copied by thousands of people as well. Distressing as this may be to you, your mums pictures will right now be fuelling the fantasies of loss of desperate and lonely men. Perhaps that was your mother's only reason for putting the pictures there in the 1st place. She may have absolutely no intentions of committing adultery, but merely enjoys the thought of other men looking at her naked pictures and masturbating over her. Plenty of women enjoy the thought they are still attractive, even after the 1st flush of youth has faded into memory!!!

On the other hand, your mother may be either having extramarital sex, or thinking about doing so. You may ask yourself the question: why does mum feel the need to cheat? This isn't a question you can ask without creating tension of some kind. If you ask mum, she will be both embarrassed and annoyed, and will probably also feel shame and resentment. If you ask your father, I think that you can be assured that there will be thunderstorms in your house!!! Unless of course, he has given his approval for her to have some adventures. This may seem pretty unlikely, but one of the things I've come to understand since becoming an editor on this forum, is that human behaviour never ceases to amaze me.

There is also the possibility that your mother is taking revenge against your father for some indiscretion on his part. You point out that you are a wealthy family, and one of the things that comes with wealth is power. With wealth and power comes opportunity, and that opportunity often presents itself in the availability of young impressionable women. Perhaps your father is not averse to dabbling with younger women, and perhaps your mum is reacting in a manner that says "If he can do it, so can I." Obviously, I don't know any of the facts behind your family relationships, so everything I am saying is just supposition. I am putting forward possible reasons, and they may all be incorrect, perhaps even grossly unfair. If that is the case that me apologise in advance; but what I am trying to point out is that there are always reasons for people's behaviour, and very often, those reasons aren't as clear-cut as we 1st imagine them to be. We have to be careful before we jump to the wrong conclusions.

Painful though it may be, I still believe that the best thing you can do is to leave the whole thing alone, and let them work things out for themselves. If you talk to either one of them, you will be in the worst situation, because each will accuse you of taking sides with the other, and you will end up wishing you'd never said a word; so don't!!!

Once again, I'm sorry that I can't be more helpful, but I hope I can prevent you from doing something which you may regret later.

Take care,

Salma

commented Nov 2, 2015 by Eshajaiswal786 (120 points)
ya u r right
commented Nov 2, 2015 by Suhani Patel (205 points)
I agree with you
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Hey jaiswal,

     Why don't you try this way... check in that website (where your mother photo is), whether there is an option called report abuse or copyright ownership. Then click it and they may ask you a reason and a mail id to contact you (to tell the content has been removed). It may also workout man, just before trying create a fake mail id (for your personal safety)...
answered Oct 31, 2015 by Seenivasan (200 points)
commented Oct 31, 2015 by karan786 (130 points)
thats a pornsite dude!
as she said!
and they don't brother about any copyright !
commented Nov 1, 2015 by Eshajaiswal786 (120 points)
checked!
but not able to find mom's pic again!
commented Nov 1, 2015 by Seenivasan (200 points)
you mean "the website didn't display any photos of your mom", then just forget all these things and thank to god... The god spared you and your family life... Enjoy and wishes to you friend...
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Hi
I don't think your mom has posted her photos on her own. No one with sound mentality, who is living with his/her family would post her photos on internet or put an advertise of her own in this way. No one is so idiot here to believe posting such stuff online could be a classified matter. You may get suggestions that "Your mom is an adult..its her right whether to have extra-martial affair or not..or may be to enjoy her sexuality."
I will suggest to ignore it.
This is all photoshop magic. At least I believe so. These softwares are so good that, you will believe that, this is real.
Now, As per my suggestion, you shall approach to your mom asap, lodge a police complaint. There are strong laws, which can take actions against this.
Don't waste time, You need to act.
All the best
answered Oct 31, 2015 by chinmay and chinmay (470 points)
commented Nov 1, 2015 by Eshajaiswal786 (120 points)
yaa! thx men!
agree with you
!
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hello,

Dont worry, this situation can be tackled. you are a human being, a girl and has sexual urges and you it is not wrong for you or anyone to have such feelings. we humans are not mongamous by nature. to have urge to have sex outsuide marriage is normal though many do not get opportuninty to do it.
So even if the pics are real and posted my your mother it is okay. these days this is one way of having sex or fun. and those who are intersted in sex only see such site, whether it is son, father, mother or daughter.
the forst thing is clear your doubt. approach your mother and tell her that as a youg girl you are also intersted in sex and watch sex sites, which is very common these days and common knowledge too. then tell her you saw her pictures in a site or look alike pictres in a site andask her is it safe. also tell her that you will keep it a secret.
then you will come to know the truth.
but anyway do not tell your father.
if it her true pictures posted by her, let her enjoy her life. she is a mature woman. keep it a secret. if it is really posted by her, she knows very well that it is for public viewing.
i see many nude photos daily, but i cant remember a single photo or face. in this site the viewer and viewed are in the same boat or status.
it is not a big issue, any way clear your doubt. doubt is a slow poison. and remember what your mother has done is not a great sin.
good luck
answered Oct 31, 2015 by sumitran9 (1,595 points)
commented Nov 1, 2015 by Eshajaiswal786 (120 points)
seriously!!!
this can be happen??
i think!!
they are photoshopped!
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hi,

may be photoshopped. most pobably so. i too see some sites saying lady three kms awy and shows a forigner's white lady's picture with some strange english names. they are fake. and i think they charge money from men who register it.

if you are from a big city or metro, i just wanted you to clear your doubt., the best way i thought was asking your mom directly. by the way does she too watch porn and dating site. because doubt will kill you. and they change photos. so you dont have to worry too much
answered Nov 1, 2015 by sumitran9 (1,595 points)
commented Nov 2, 2015 by Eshajaiswal786 (120 points)
i think she dont
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hello,
If she is not in habit of seeing porn and dating sites, then it cant be posted by her. a photoshopped work. so forget it. take it as cyber eve teasing. some guy with no spine is making money using different photos of unknown ladies. i used get a mail from a man posing as woman and sent some innocent lady's photo. later i came to know, by his own error, that it is a man and not a woman. forget it, keep cool. good luck
answered Nov 2, 2015 by sumitran9 (1,595 points)
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Just ask about it and see what does she say - they might be cropped or something.  On the other hand, as you say - you watch lots of porns and hence, should not be shocked to see your mom in the site. Like you, she may have some sexual kinks of her one. Sharing the matter with her might be beneficial for for you by developing better understanding about sexuality and eroticism of both and your mom.
answered Mar 10, 2016 by zena69 (1,425 points)

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