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How to convince my wife for a threesome?

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asked Dec 16, 2015 in Questions by Suraj45448 (120 points)
edited Dec 19, 2015 by longhands1

Hi,

I asked my wife last month during sex about my desire to have threesome with another man but she refused and became sad. After that I apologized to her and assured that I will never raise the topic again.

But I really want to have a threesome. Please suggest what I should do? How can I convince her?

 

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Dear suraj  you havent mentioned your age and other details such as how long u been married, was it a love marge ,whether her values are traditional etc. If I were you i would  wait for some more time. First of all try to know if your fantazy is completely against her moral principles. If yes pls drop the idea.I tgink you still have a chance as she was not angry.  Try to find a guy and introduce him to ur wife. After somedays if she is comfortable ask her again. If no pls drop the idea forever. Because certian fantazies give some people happiness but it can shatter others life.
answered Dec 16, 2015 by vimo (285 points)
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She became sad when you asked her for threesome that suggests that she did not want to do it and you cannot convince her if it is against her belief or faith. You should not make her suffer on your account. However, story would be different if she showed interest. Therefore, if you do not want to disturb your married life then refrain yourself.

Threesome is not for everyone and your wife is not the threesome material so accept it and drop the idea of convincing her. You should have to respect your wife’s decision and you do not have right to make her to do something in which she is not comfortable. Do not get influenced by threesome stories because most of the stories are fake one and never showed the risk involved in it. Grass is not always greener on the other side. 

answered Dec 16, 2015 by alpesh kapdi (21,850 points)
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Your wife obviously has a lot more sense than you. She realises that introducing another man into the bedroom could completely destroy your marriage.

No doubt you have got this idea from watching pornography. Wake up and smell the coffee!!! Pornography is graphically represented fantasy, not real-life. Take a pause for a 2 seconds and think about it. How do you think you will feel if you see your wife enjoying sex with another guy, particularly if she enjoys it more with him than she does with you? How will you feel if the other guy has a bigger penis than you, and it obviously gives her more satisfaction? How do you think you would feel if you come home from work one day, and find her  having really great sex with this other guy, without you being present? This is one of those Pandora's box situations: once you open the lid, you let out all the troubles of the world for yourself, and you won't be able to get them back in the box and close the lid again.

If she was enthusiastic for this, then notwithstanding all the issues I raised above, you could go ahead with it. But she has sensibly refused, and doesn't want to be shared with somebody else. She married you, and she's content to stay that way.

The only way that group sex can succeed is if those engaged in it have no jealousy. And that's pretty unusual. Before embarking on these things, both partners have to be completely at ease with the whole idea, or it is doomed to failure, and most likely failure of the entire marriage. If your wife was enthusiastic, I would be concerned as to why she feels the need for another man, but as she outright refuses, it would suggest that she puts far more value in the marriage then you do, and if that's the case, no wonder she is feeling hurt by your suggestion. She equates the whole idea with you seeing her as some kind of ****, And believe it or not, most of us don't like our men thinking of us in this way!!!

So my advice to you is to leave this alone. Stop watching so much porn, and learn to enjoy making love with your wife. There are plenty of things that the 2 of you can do together, without involving a 3rd party, if you want to spice up your sex life. It starts with communication, so try asking her what excites her, and if there's anything that she wishes you would do, and even more importantly anything that you do that she wishes you wouldn't!!!

I hope this helps get your mind right. You probably have some fences to mend with her now, as you have hurt her feelings by even suggesting the idea of a threesome. If you want a harmonious married life, learn how to please her rather than upset her.

Good luck,

Salma
answered Dec 16, 2015 by sexysalma (14,945 points)
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You will not be happy if she doesn't enjoy. If she doesn't like it then drop the idea. You can fulfill your fantasy with some other friends by being part of threesome.
You don't want to ruin the loving bond you have with your wife just for threesome.

Happy love making.
answered Dec 17, 2015 by Jimmy611 (155 points)
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Its very simple.

Just on weekends try watching porn together. Try spending time watching threesome porns. Let her actually know how a threesome looks & feels like while she is worshiped by 2 cocks.
I know she will not agree & figure out you are trying to tempt her. Just have some photoshoot sessions. Like take her pics naked. She will love it. Take pics of you fucking her. Show it to her & watch her expressions. Take pics of you sucking her vagina. Take pics of you sucking her boobs. Do something unusual & make her crave for more of such adventures. ATB
answered Dec 18, 2015 by deepsingh (190 points)

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