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The reason why rape has been trivialised to the extent where a person wants to question about it on a public forum is mainly due to the women themselves and the government policies.
Consider this, 53% of the rape accusations are false( NCRB data of India). These are not some mistrials or due to some very clever advocates. These are wrong allegations right off the bat. How and why there are so many false cases I'll explain later when I come to the government policies and rules on rape.
When there are so many false cases being reported, it just comes to the proverbial end of "the boy who cried wolf".
Another reason why women trivialise rape is by not reporting them to the authorities, this lets the perpetrators think they can get away with this. Some of you might think that rape is a stigma, I just think you are cowards . Dignity and justice should not be based in the vagina. If all you care about is what a bunch of idiots' impression of you, then trust me, you wouldn't go anywhere in the world if at all last long enough.
The government and the judiciary have given some rules on rape that are at best speculative. Lets consider this one
1) a man can be charged with rape if he has sex with a women after a false promise of marriage
Think about this :
Consent has been taken
No violence was involved at all and at no point can it be called a violent offence
The lady was in her full senses at the time of consent
It can be as a simple scenario as this : a guy has a girlfriend, the guy proposes to the girl and says he'll be with her lifelong and also promises to marry her. They have consensual sex to mark some special occasion. Over time ardour cools and the guy decides that he's not happy with her so he breaks off the relationship. The girl gets upset and files a rape charge against him.
Now, go ahead and think, is this rape (having a minimum of 10 years rigorous imprisonment) ??
Worst case scenario it's a case of cheating with maximum of 2 year imprisonment and is bailable
This rule is very scary for the modern male. To put this into perspective, when I had sex with my girlfriend 7 years back I clearly and categorically had to mention to her that I cannot promise marriage and still to this day have an SMS conversation of that to back me up as evidence in case things between us went sour at any point of time.
2) sex with a girl of age under 18 who is not married is considered rape.
Consider the scenario here: two high school lovers doing their 11th or 12th grades, fall in love with each other and have consensual sex. Things go sour for some reason and the girl can file a rape case against the guy.
Usually this is not the case, how things actually go is this: the parents of the girl find out, they oppose their relationship(religion, caste and status difference usually), but the girl wants to be with the guy. Since she's a minor the parents go to a police station and talks to the inspector there who nonchalantly says, file a rape case against the boy. And as simple as that a rape happens.
Since the guy is 16-17 he cannot even take protection under the protection of children from sexual offences act.
This can happen to any of our boys and children, can we really tell the government to castrate and kill these boys because they "raped"??
I have seen opinions where it keeps mentioning that rapists should be castrated or killed or both. These unscientific opinion by largely ignorant people have given rise to vigilantes, who have lynched person while still alive and hanging from a tree. And all the while he was innocent because it was a false rape accusation.
Without sound laws with scientific opinions rather than knee jerk opinions from idiots, the "rapists" who do get caught will be subject to mob mentality even before a trial.
I know of many men's rights activists groups who are filing PIL's almost every month against the above two conditions on rape just to get shot out in an equally fast way.
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