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Am madly in love with a girl I met in the train. How to find her?

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asked Jul 7, 2016 in Questions by ak hill (185 points)
edited Jul 8, 2016 by longhands1

I met a girl while travelling to Kerala by train. I signalled how beautiful she was, and how awesome her smile was. I even asked where she was going to? She replied her destination as Thiruvalla.. All this was in sign language.

When I asked her name, her mother saw us and stopped our conversation. She kept trying to tell her name but I never got it. It was 2.30 in the morning, when my station came and I had to get down. After that I went to her city 2 times just to get a glimpse of her so that I could talk to her, but did not succeed.

Now, I like a girl in college but whenever I talk to her I begin to feel guilty. I feel I shouldn't do this because of the girl I met in the train. I just can't get her out of my head so whenever I start to make conversation with this girl in college my heart says don't. I feel I may meet the girl from the train someday and this feeling about her is really killing me.

I need real help. I am looking forward to your help.

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commented Jul 15, 2016 by longhands1 (72,815 points)

ak hill,

You have to choose Best Answer for this Question and your previous Questions before you ask a New Question. I have sent you PMs in this regard, but may be you have not looked at them.

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Don’t you think that you are living in unreal world? Let’s assume that you are going to meet her in train or somewhere else one day but that does not mean that she would be with you for life time or she would fall in love with you. She might have different opinion for you.

You even did not talk to her and you are thinking about her all the time. She might be good in sign language but that does not show that you would be compatible with her in person.

You might be total opposite person in reality and she might not be your type or you might not be fit into her life so just because she is beautiful, does not mean that, she will be yours or you will have to wait for her all the time, losing your mental peace and energy to do something better than her.  

It might be even possible that she was time passing with you in the train or she was flirtatious type person, there are chances that she has a boyfriend too, you do not know about her anything so it is useless to waste your time behind her and continue keep the dead hope alive. Moreover, you tried for her few times but you did not see the success so move on would be better option.

On the other hand you like a girl in your college so you should be with her and try to go on date with her to know whether you both are on same page or not, you two have common interests and hobbies or not.

It is time to take a practical decision rather than emotional one. Accept that the girl you met in train is not for you. Who knows she might move on in her life or she even not remembers you. Don’t forget the famous saying that grass in not always greener on the other side so stop wasting your time and energy for your mental peace. It would be stupid decision to lose the girl you like in college in the name of false hope.

You should stop feeling guilt for something like this, as it is your childish mind, which makes you feel guilt for nothing. 

answered Jul 8, 2016 by alpesh kapdi (22,095 points)
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Hi,

Dear friend are you trying to re-create the Hindi Movie - "Sirf Tum" again. Please be realistic that just kind of things happen only in movie. And also its a recent instance so it will create problem for a couple of days/months and then you will be lost in the world. It actually happens with almost everyone. But then you just can't wait with uncertainty that destiny will make you meet her again.
Move ahead dear friend and probably she must have also moved ahead. Thats call life. Just like when you sit for an exam you don't waste your time on a question which you don't know, instead move with the questions which your are familiar with, so that you can pass in the exam. Same is the situation. Good luck for future
answered Jul 8, 2016 by letschat0921 (815 points)
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Hi Ak hill,

Your story sounds like an old Hindi movie "Sirf Tum". You must see this movie. If you went gaga to seeing that girl's beauty then you should have gone unto Thirvelli. If the TTE comes you then you pay your extended journey fare. If you would have gone unto Thirvelli then there was a probability of something, but now there is not looking any ray of hope

You could also give your mobile number in a small piece of paper to that girl covertly when you were getting down from your train.

You seem a novice person in the matter of love affairs. Now the bird has flown from your hands and there is no use to searching her. There is a very very low probability that you could see her again in your whole life.

It's a foolishness that you're ignoring any other girl just because of that.

It's old saying that one bird in hand worth than two in bush.

Friend, this world is so big enough, she is not a one and only fish of the ocean. Luckily  if you see her again and you propose her then there is a probability that she might refuse your proposal. I'm stunning beautiful with astonishing bulging curves and people often used to flabbergasted to see me. Most of them try to get intimate with me, offer friendship requests, but invariably, I refuse them. You could get a more beautiful girl in comparison of that girl, so remove that girl from your mind and make friendship with any good looking girl so that you would overcome from your overwhelming obsession.

With best wishes.
Nazia Hasan
answered Jul 8, 2016 by Nazia_Hasan (1,445 points)
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This is the "puppy-love" often called "first-sight-love" and "infatuation". This usually happen you a beautiful girl for the time,and think ,She is only created you you,Day and Night you think about her.You also think you can not live without her. Thats it.
Forgot that girl you saw on you way.Try to talk and express you feeling that the girl you like.Hey why you are feeling guilty because of that girl?...Don't feel guilty..First of all That girl is not yours..Try to talk with more girls in your college in order to forgot her.Girls are like bus.When the first one goes,second one come,When the second one goes the third one come and so on.Try to forgot her soon as possible,Due to the fact that you cannot concentrate at you studies,as the result the percentage will go downwards.I had also experienced this infatuation many times when i was in studying at the school.Later on i came to know about this is infatuation not true love.

Have a great day ahead.
answered Jul 8, 2016 by wassekaran (505 points)
commented Jul 16, 2016 by ak hill (185 points)
Thank you all for your answers I think I'll move on.. ☺

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