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Will SRSP (Same Room Same Partner) help lead to cuckold and threesome fun?

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asked Jul 21, 2016 in Questions by Cucokold_delhi_88 (120 points)
edited Jul 24, 2016 by longhands1

I am from Delhi. I have cuckold fantasy since last 1 years. I have discussed this with wife, but she feel uncomfortable.

However she is ready for SRSP only with couple. Please can somebody suggest: Will SRSP help us to lead to cuckold or threesome fun. I want to see my wife enjoying with a handsome male. Will SRSP lead to Threesome or Cuckold?

Please exerienced persons, let me know your views in this situation. I need your help.

 

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As of my experience srsp may not work, In the name itself it is clear that just you enjoy your partner and they enjoy their partner, but as your wife agreed try once. Check if it works or else you can try another ways by our guidence.

Good Day
Abhi
answered Jul 22, 2016 by abhi14343 (1,835 points)
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Cuckold Delhi,

Cuckold word first appeared in English literature in 1562. Cuckold refers to the fact that the man being cuckolded is the last to know about his wife's infidelity.

This also refers to a tradition claiming that in the village of the Ćordės sur Ćiel, Tarn, France the community would gather to collectively humiliate a man whose wife gave birth to a child that was not his own. This is where the humiliation aspect of cuckolding first came into play. According to this legend, a parade was held in which they forced the hapless husband into wearing antlers on his head as a symbol of his wife's infidelity.

Cuckolding fetish is just one of the many kinks people have but do not fully understand. Cuckolding has been around for centuries and retains its popularity today.

Over the time, the meaning of cuckold word has been completely changed. If you'll see its meaning in the dictionary then its old meaning will appear as "the husband of a adulterous wife". In modern cuckolding the "cuckold fetish" meaning is as "A husband of a faithful wife, whose penis is small and he thinks that he is unable to satisfy his wife with his small penis. Then husband asks his wife that would she like to have sex with someone who has larger penis? If his wife agrees then the husband derives sexual pleasure from watching his wife have sex with a man who has a larger penis. The husband gets more sexual pleasure when the person pounds his wife's vagina hard with his enormous penis and she moans, and writhes & squirms her body with immense sexual pleasure. The husband feeling like a victim of the cuckold is a major element of the kink."

Part of the sex play is also the comparison of penis size and the wife shaming her husband for not having a large enough penis to give her full enjoyment of penetration. For this reason, many men in the fantasy of cuckold consider a black man dominant.

Cuckolding has been around for centuries and retains its popularity today. In fact, neuroscientists Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam found (after analyzing the contents a billion online search terms) that “cuckold porn” is second only to “youth” in heterosexual porn searches.

Often people CONFUSE cuckolding with swinging, wife/partner swapping, SRSP, threesome or polyamory, but cuckold is different in that the husband is loved by his wife only. He allows her to experience pleasure with another man. But, he does not want her to fall in love with the other men, only just receive pleasure from them.

In fact, a number of the men and couples who practice this lifestyle revealed that they find the rarity of it, and the taboo nature behind it, a big part of the thrill. As with any new adventure that a married couple takes with sex play, this should all begin slowly and with respect for each other.

No persuation, coercion or force should be employed to convince your wife otherwise the entire experience can become explosive, resulting in the permanent breakup of the relationship.

When love is involved in the relationship, it is not uncommon for intense feelings of jealousy, betrayal, and anger to be experienced by the husband.

I do believe that sexual fantasies can be quite healthy in a relationship. However, acting some of them out can be quite dangerous and detrimental to the relationships, so think the consequences before acting on this fetish.

All the best.
Nazia Hasan

answered Jul 22, 2016 by Nazia_Hasan (1,445 points)
edited Jul 24, 2016 by longhands1
commented Jul 22, 2016 by hydspesial-2 (480 points)
Has he asked for the definition and history of cuckold? On what manner the questioner is answered by your post.
commented Jul 23, 2016 by Nazia_Hasan (1,445 points)
Wear your spectacles and read my question carefully again, it has not only the definition.

Since I joined Ask Anjali, I've seen innumerable questions on cuckold fetish. I've never seen a single person that who knows the true definition of cuckold fetish. Before asking any question on cuckold fetish, one should have the true knowledge of this word. If you'll delve into the whole Internet, you will not be able to find such a definition of mine.

Anyway, You should have appreciated me for my knowledge, but sadly you're giving me backhanded compliment.
commented Jul 23, 2016 by hydspesial-2 (480 points)
Question there is as simple as " would SRSP will lead to cuckold and threesome"
Anyways I dont want to fall into debate.
commented Jul 23, 2016 by Nazia_Hasan (1,445 points)
Just see the questioner's name, it's "Cuckold_delhi_88" and I think he didn't know even the modern meaning of "cuckold fetish" word. Before asking any questions you should have knowledge of the definition or meaning of the word. Some people just watch cuckold porn on internet then jumped on Ask Anjali to ask a question.

It's necessary to educate the novice person. Not a single person on this forum knows the modern definition of "cuckold fetish".

Be thoughtful before giving any comments on my answer.
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Before you get into this, consider what the consequences of it may be. Experimenting with allowing your wife to have sex with other people runs the risk of her finding the sex with someone else much more exciting than it is with you. This can destroy your marriage. On the other hand, if you start having sex with someone else, you might find her more enjoyable than your wife. Again with the possible result of destroying your marriage stop fantasies are one thing, reality is often something completely different. In a fantasy, there's no jealousy amongst any of those participating, but the reality is that jealousy often does occur. How do you think you will like it if your wife starts allowing somebody else to do things with her that she has refused with you? How will you feel if you see that she is obviously enjoying the sex far more with the other person she does with you? Have you think your wife will feel if she is watching you having sex with another girl? Particularly if you are really enjoying it, or the other girl is far more uninhibited than she is. You see, these are some of the reality is that you have two accent as a possibility.

Now is the refers to back a cold in a somewhat incorrect manner. If you look at the Oxford English dictionary definition of a car cold, you will see that it is a reference to a man in a derisory manner, as he is the victim of a woman who is carrying out an adulterous affair. She is having sex behind his back, and those who know of the affair refer to the person as being cuckolded. It originates from the French and refers to a cuckoo, which is a bird found in Europe that plays its egg in another birds nest, and the other bird then raise the cuckoo chick and feeds it, usually at the cost of its own eggs, as the cuckoo is quite a large bird, and it frequently pushes all the other baby birds out of the nest so that it is the sole beneficiary of devoted parents. A cuckolded man is someone who is the victim of his wife's infidelity, which she is carrying on unbeknown to him. So strictly speaking, you are using the wrong terminology. As your wife would not be doing something behind your back, but in plain view of you. What you are really referring to is couples swapping and swinging.

Whatever you want to call it anyway, is probably irrelevant. What is more important is to consider the potential such activities have for ruining your marriage. This is one of these Pandora's box situations. Once you open the lid, and let everything escape, you cannot get it back in the box again. You might find that the fantasy is far more enjoyable than the reality, but perhaps your wife might feel the opposite, and decide that she really enjoys swapping with other people, and what you going to do then?

There are people that can enjoy group sex without any problems, and some people who even make it a way of life, but unless neither you nor your wife, nor the other people involved, can have no feelings of jealousy or envy, then this is not something to be taken up lightly.

As with everything else in married life, sensible conversation on the subject should be the first thing that you consider. Talk to your wife about it, and listen to what she has to say. You might be all excited about doing this, and she may feel like she is being pushed into something that she doesn't want. Make sure that she is wholeheartedly with you, not just doing it to attempt to pacify you. If the two of you can genuinely agree that it is something that you both want, then you can dip your toe in the water, but remember my warning. The things we do in life always have some kind of consequence, you need to make sure that the consequences do not result in an irretrievable breakdown of your marriage.

Salma

answered Jul 22, 2016 by sexysalma (14,920 points)
edited Jul 24, 2016 by longhands1
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Maximum chances are there that SRSP will lead to threesome but it would not be possible in first encounter itself. You have to keep arranging same thing often and when she becomes use to it, she might turn into threesome so right now follow her wish and do not force her.

Let her become comfortable with other couple, once her confident would increase on you that you would never force her, she may start putting efforts to fulfill your fantasy.

It is good that your wife becomes ready to have sex with you when other couple also having sex in the same room as it shows that she does not have that much of conservative mindset towards sex.

What you need to do is make her comfortable and whenever you get a chance to have conversation on threesome and cuckold keep-having discussion on it, but make sure that discussion should be in healthy manner rather than in nagging way.

It will take time for you to make her to follow your wish but she will so remember patience is the key here. 

answered Jul 23, 2016 by alpesh kapdi (21,135 points)
edited Jul 24, 2016 by longhands1
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Cuckold-Delhi,

Being to the point with you, yes it is possible that Same Room, Same Partner can lead to a Threesome.

Since your wife has agreed to have sex with you in front of strangers, it is the first step. Rarely are women comfortable of having sex with their husbands in front of strangers. You will need that she is comfortable. You must also be prepared that this may lead to swapping of partners.

Is your wife comfortable with this? While she may not mind a couple watching, when it comes to swapping of partners then it is a different cup of tea. From what you have written, it seems that your wife is not as yet prepared in fulfilling your fantasy of having sex with another male.

Cuckolding, as our Friends have explained is a much later step. First your wife has to agree to having sex with another man. Swapping of partners takes lots of time and patience from all sides. You have to first meet the couple and then build some sort of rapport, only then will your wife be willing to undress and get nude in front of them. Women are very conscious of their bodies and take a lot of time to literally to “open” up.       

You can try Skyping with another couple. So that they can watch you and vice versa having sex with your respective spouses. Late on you can meet for same room sex.

answered Jul 24, 2016 by longhands1 (68,110 points)
edited Jul 24, 2016 by longhands1
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Hi dear, I had gone through your question. Our ladies are still very conservative and not comfortable with the idea of threesome orgy or cuck, so if you want your wife to take interest in such activities you have to train her, means you have to make up her mind.

One she gets comfortable with the concept that it's all for fun and it would not harm her she will herself ask for more and more fun as she get open to that  fantasy world. So for that initiating with SRSP is not a bad idea. Once she get comfortable with the presence of other people in the room she won't mind if you include a man in your bedroom, so I think you should go for SRSP.

I hope you will get right couple who is rightous and convincing and you both couples enjoy sex in each others presence and they would not harm you or force you for anything. Once your wife enjoys the session means she is comfortable with the concept of getting nude and having sex in someones presence but don't expect too much from her. Its a slow process. Once she gets comfortable you can start asking her about the other males and start talking about other males their sex organs and performance she might get ready to enjoy with other men in your presence but finding a decent men is a big task.

You can also do one thing , find a men of your wife's choice and convince both and let your wife have an affair with that man. Once they both indulge in sex you can also join them but take care in this also you need a man who obeys you because it will be easy for you that whenever you want you can call him.
answered Jul 24, 2016 by Jhonsm (1,180 points)
edited Jul 25, 2016 by longhands1
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Hello,

I am single, male and into this lifestyle, so I understand what you are talking about. Well SRSP does work sometimes but not always. Well, if you want your wife to enjoy threesome then go for it. She is ready for it, you just have to garnish her.

Give her some time to find a nice guy. Introduce her to him and keep watching. A lady needs someone who can take care of her properly. Most importantly particularly in these cases. A wife wants husband not to see it while watching. I know its confusing what I said but let me try to explain.

Well you are the only person she trusts but she cannot do it infront of you. So you have to be with her mentally and physically while giving her and her partner space to open up. You can join them once they are comfortable enough to move ahead. Its not that tough just have patience.

Best of luck and do reply if you need further adivce.

answered Mar 22 by pparthivsharma (135 points)
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