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Now my husband wants me have sex with his friend.

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asked Oct 23, 2016 in Questions by sadha (255 points)
Please read my earlier Post for background to this question.

I am happy to be reunited with my hubby after long time. But he brought his friend with him. He will be staying here for 2 weeks.

Now my husband wants me to sleep with him. He says that it is his dream fantasy to watch his wife getting fucked by another guy. He tried to convince me saying " who knows even you might have a fantasy to watch your husband fucking another girl right in front of you".

 I was shocked. Now I don't know what to do. He stopped fucking me because of that. I don't understand what to do. If I get fucked he might bring a girl and fuck her in front of me.



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In your previous question you expressed your willingness to get fucking from a stranger.God has listened your requisition.Enjoy the company of your husband and his friend.Sometimes,do threesome.Allow your husband to bring another women,discourage him to bring girls.Your husband may enjoy both of you in same bed.
answered Oct 23, 2016 by Motilal (5,525 points)
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Do you really don't want this? If not why ? Because it's not normal in our society? There are endless questions on this topic. Why we don't take 'sex' just as fun activity. Why don't we separate love (love) with spouse and sex differently.
If husband wanted to have sex with other woman, that doesn't mean that he dont love his wife. (or vise versa)
Only condition is both should be on one page. Both should be mentally ready.
I don't see any issue there, open your mind, accept this and go ahead and njoy your life.
answered Oct 23, 2016 by SamRin (660 points)
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Dear Sadha, 

Whenever, he want to introduce another man into your marital relationship then everything is not well. You may be thinking I am conservative but not at all. A woman can still emotionally love a man but from frustration, marital boredom, curiosity, thinking she's no longer attractive to other men, want to be fucked by another man - to fulfil any/all of these things. You should have in-depth details of his relations with other women or he is thinking something different.

That thought is pretty common as a fantasy and like many fantasies they are more enjoyable as a fantasy because the thoughts are relatively guilt free. If he is allowing you to experience sex with other men while he is watching or any variance therein, he should not reservations or hesitations or underlying jealousies cause it could easily destroy his relationship. Everyone is different. 

The underlying bottleneck should be resolved by mutual discussion. In case he wants to bring another girl into the platform then its different. 

answered Oct 23, 2016 by bubu_002 (2,730 points)
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So enjoy with this friend and rub it in your husband's face by telling him that his friend was much better, lets see if he still asks you to cuckold him.
answered Oct 23, 2016 by gr8gaur (1,635 points)
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You sound puzzled that means somehow you want to be fucked by another man otherwise, you should have had the clear answer what you want as your husband made his intention clear that he wants you to sleep with his friend. You are thinking about what to do sounds you have not opposed him straightaway but it might be possible that your upbringing and moral against it so you have to decide what to do. Don’t you think that you are looking here approving comments so you can have sex with another man?

You have two options here one, if you wish to be fucked by another man then say yes and enjoy the session. Second, if you do not like the idea of your husband then let him know firmly that you would not do it no matter what. Do not succumb by his pressure as he does not have any right to force in such matter.

However, threesome and cuckold are not uncanny these days as many couples are enjoying it but you need to draw definite boundaries before stepping in. Overall, it entirely depends on you whether to sleep with his friend or not but your decide should not be influenced by your husband’s pressure because if you feel what you are doing is right and you are convinced then you should not listen to what society thinks because if society thinks certain thing is wrong then it does mean that it is wrong for you. 

answered Oct 24, 2016 by alpesh kapdi (21,135 points)
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HelloSadha,

It is really down to what you want. If you don't want to have sex with his friend, then refuse. He can't make you do this, to do so would be conspiracy to commit sexual assault and rape. Your husband should respect you, and respect the way you feel. If he doesn't, then you should question whether you should remain married to him.

On the other hand, you have had fantasies about having sex with another man,You have not done so as of this time, your husband is offering you the opportunity to do so, though in this case he wants to be there when you are doing it. Your previous post said that you fantasise about having sex with strangers, and now you have a golden opportunity. Of course, once he turns the key in Pandora's box, he opens your relationship to all different possibilities, and when he is away again, you can do whatever you like.

I suspect that he wants you to do this so that he has an excuse to bring another girl into your sex lives, so that he can have sex with her in front of you, basing his own activities on the fact that you have had sex with another guy in front of him.

It sounds to me like you don't like the idea of him having sex with another girl, and you don't want to have sex with his friend. So you just have to say no to him, and have done with it. If he can't accept this, then I'm afraid your marriage looks to be in trouble.

Let us look at it from another angle. If you go along with this, in spite of your reluctance, you will be putting yourself at the mercy of both your husband and his friend, and you will be opening the door to perhaps a lot of other things which you might not be happy with. The consequences of this could do incalculable damage to your marriage, your relationship with both your family, and your in-laws, and who knows where it would end?

There is something else to consider though. You have to think about what you really truly want., And then let him know. You could be opening the door to complete sexual freedom, allowing you to do pretty much whatever you like, but it comes as a two-edged sword, because in doing what you want, you have to accept that he will do what he wants. At some point, this could damage your marriage as well

So, first of all, be very clear in your mind about what is being asked for, and what is being suggested. Think about what you really want, and weigh up all the possibilities of where it might head. Once you have thought this through carefully and clearly, I think you will make your own conclusions as to what path to follow.

Love,

Salma
answered Oct 26, 2016 by sexysalma (14,920 points)

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