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I get aroused more only when i think of her fucking other men

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asked Nov 17, 2016 in Questions by Karthi13 (120 points)
I am karthik living in chennai with my girlfriend. We both are living together and doing our engineering and medicine respectively. Im 21 and she is 20 currently. We do sex often before and at least more than twice a week. But I feel more aroused and honey thinking of her doing sex with others or also threesome with me and another guy. While fucking I think like this and she too asks me to treat her badly like a **** during sex. We have talked openly but she is like not 100% okay with this thought. Last year she has said me that she was fucked by her driver who is around 23 age. They both still chat online and she allowed him since he was in love and she too likes him as a friend. She told me after few months of this incident happening out of fear. I am pretty ok with this as I like her being fucked by others.

   I have said her of this also and so she starts to chat online and once I changed her mind to have sex with him again also. This idea was discussed by us and due to some date concerns they both were not able to meet up. And now she is saying she does not want sex with him and not interested but in my knowledge I think she likes to have and a bit frightened about something.
        
        I told her she can fuck whomever she likes and we can have threesome but she said she will fuck that guy when im not present only as mentioned above. But as said it didnt happen really.
        
      Problem is now a days im not able to fuck her properly and losing interest in our sex because its just us both involved and im getting bored. I want us to have threesome and she should enjoy with other guy like she had done earlier. I think after doing this I might get more interested in our sex drive.
 She is very much interested in our sex and wants it to happen daily too.



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It sounds that she is not sure about a threesome. She gets excited by the idea of threesome but something is holding her back to act on it. You are normal by getting aroused thinking of her fucking other men because it is your fantasy and you would like to make it real when you heard her saying that she got fucked by someone else of her age. You got your hope high that you could arrange a threesome with her and which is thrilling you but her confusion makes you less interested in her.

Communication can help you so have words with her about your feelings to have a threesome. Ask her what is bothering her and why does she hold herself back. Address her issues and assure that your relationship would not be ruined because of this as this is what you both want to do.

However, if she does not want to have threesome then you have no right to force to go into it otherwise, you would ruin your happy relationship. Talk to her and if she finally does not want to do threesome then you should drop the idea of a threesome. You should look for other ways to make your sex life enjoyable.

There are so many other ways to make sex life interested. However, put your best effort to get her convinced for threesome but make sure that she is not obeying your demand just because you want otherwise, on long run she will start resenting you for making her do something she does not want to do. You both need to discuss the boundaries before stepping into threesome world to maintain your healthy relationship. 

answered Nov 17, 2016 by alpesh kapdi (19,870 points)
commented Nov 17, 2016 by Karthi13 (120 points)
Thanks a lot!! U have understood the situation exactly and i too think of the same and just we need time to talk about this and settle it even, thanks for the answer. It means a lot to me.
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why can't you understand that she just doesn't want to do this?

 

Just because you want something, doesn't necessarily mean that you can have it. She obviously thinks more of her relationship with you, then you do. Every indication you are giving in your post is that you are not really bothered about her as a person, and you only look upon her as something to satisfy your lusts. Now your lusts consist of watching her being fucked by other men, and it comes as no surprise to me that she doesn't want this.

 

If you can't think of her with love and respect, then you should break off the relationship, and stop wasting her time. It seems clear to me that she is investing her energies into a loving relationship, but she really cannot bring herself to satisfying your fantasies,  when they go directly against what she wants. Stop wasting your time and hers, and let her find somebody new who can give her love and respect which you obviously don't have for her.

 

You will find girls who derive a great deal of excitement from having multiple partners, and be careful about what you wish for in life, because sometimes your wishes come true, but once you find a girl you love, and she starts messing around, it will be your heart that gets broken!!!

 

Salma
answered Nov 17, 2016 by sexysalma (14,920 points)
commented Nov 17, 2016 by Karthi13 (120 points)
I think you have thought it other way, i know i cant force her to do this. Im just motivating her because i could know that she is interested in sex with me more and its more than love she needs sex from me. She is okay with however i make up with her, and im just telling il get even more excited about this other idea. We too fantasize this and enjoy sex often. I just want it to be real and if thats never going to happen for sure then i could change up my mind and leave this thought step by step. At present there is no way of us seperating for this matter and we are being togther in relationship for 8 years and hope ur sex life continues still better. Thank you for the answer and it gives me a different perspective as i have been thinking this long that she might like it also. So thank you again for answering this. But could you give me a ladies perspective as she had already fucked another man and we both have discussed it also and she gets excited before when i asked her to do this again.
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I have no advice or suggestions to offer but to share my thoughts. From last couple of days, there are too many questions related to cuckolding or submissive nature. I'm okay with gays, lesbians, homo, trans, bi etc but this seems to be getting too much. I feel like @27 I belong to previous genenration.

 If I was in your place, thoughts like these would have come in my mind but they would have remained thoughts forever. If my gf would have confessed that she slept with someone else while being in a relationship with me then that would have been the last time we saw each other. Now actually I want some advice or maybe a suggestion as to how can someone (especially a man) desires to be a cuckold ?
answered Nov 17, 2016 by gr8gaur (1,315 points)
commented Nov 17, 2016 by Karthi13 (120 points)
Actually it changes from person to person. I have watched cuckold videos and that had me aroused many times. Its not like i will not fuck her and only watch, i can do either way of having another guy and doing a threesome too. I hope we get practical in this issues because sex is apart from emotional feelings to as far as we just do it for sexual desires.
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hai, karthik i do agree with you same thing happened to me once i saw in hidden camera my girl friend giving a hand job to my other guy i was aroused after that she agreed to do three some but by that time she was pregnant  now she is delivered the child  recently waiting for other six months to try threesome/ swapping she is ok with it but i have to look for a new guy or couple because the guy whom she gave hand job is also my staff  all the best i am sure she will be  convienced  you try to be in other room when she is having sex  and join in between
answered Nov 18, 2016 by bijun38 (240 points)
commented Nov 19, 2016 by Karthi13 (120 points)
Yeah thats wat i too have planned to do next month. Hope it happens good, and thank you for you reply.
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Dear K,

Its good to know that you are putting all your efforts to keep her happy but you are forcing her to have threesome which she does not like. She is committed to you and she also has some desire. You are a young and energetic young and unable to maintain regular sex session, why so? I think you are aroused by your fantasy not by her. She may be noticed your behavior but she may be expecting result from you.

In these cases you have to communicate each properly in this issue and she express about her like and dislike. This would helpful for each other whether you both will continue the relationship or you have other options too. What is your view of involvement of another woman into the threesome fantasy? She wants to get fucked by her lover/driver in your absence means she is not feeling comfortable with you and your idea.  You have to think seriously about the issue.

The young generation is believed in virtual reality or virtual satisfaction. In this case you have to convince her that you are going to play the role of her lover and she will do what she expects from that guy. You have to play the real role that she will expect you every time in place of that guy. This will solve your problem of introduction of the third person in sex and her desire for that specific guy. As you don’t have objection of another fuck your girlfriend then observe what the guy is doing either by recording or meeting that person or watch by hiding.

If you have some problem in erection then you may consult the specialist in this field. 

answered Nov 21, 2016 by bubu_002 (2,680 points)
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Hi all,

I think you two need to discus this thing more elaborately. Well for you is it just more number of people in same bed? As you have mentioned she likes to be treated as a ****.

But what if the other guy takes more control and she enjoys him more than with you. Eventually you might get pushed aside. Will you be okay with that. I think you need to discus all this, then decide whether to go for it or not. Or else you might become a mere spectator.

answered Dec 10, 2016 by honeyorsugarshilpa (135 points)

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