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Uncle wants me to have Group Sex. What to do?

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asked Jan 21 in Questions by Nadee (120 points)
edited Jan 22 by longhands1

Hi,

I found this valuable Forum from one of my best friends and I would like to share my problem here to get an opinion.

I am married and 32 years of age. I got my first sex experience when I was a Teenager, from my uncle who is 20 years older than me. But I was a small girl at that time and his activities at that time were limited to sucking my small breast and touching my clitoris.  He never used his tool in my hole, but after licking my breast, he touched his tool against my hip and sperm flowed out over the hip.

This affair lasted for nearly one year and happened time to time when nobody was at home. Later, he migrated and very few times he came here. This was the background story and my problem start now.

Uncle is now about 52 years old and he came here last week. For now only my family has been living here. He requested to stay with us and my husband allowed that request without hesitation. We have a 12 year old Son. He is staying with our friend’s family for school purposes. My Husband stays at home only two or three days because of his 24 hours duty in office.

When Uncle came here, he brought many gift for us (over 2 lakhs) and he made good impression with my hubby. On the first day, we two were alone in the house. He came near me and hugged me from behind. Then he kissed me and said I want you back.

I told him, now I am a married woman and please forget our past. He continued kissing me and said, you are a beautiful young lady. Please allow me to see your body. I refused. Again, he was pulling my pants down and asked at least show me your nice hip. I allowed asnd it ended with full sex intercourse session. After that he uses me daily.

Now these are my problems:

He has sex with me many times without a condom as he doesn’t like to wear it. So in this age, can he make me pregnant?
He has lust on adult films and does many things like that to me. Now, he wants a group sex session with his best friends who already knows about us as he has shared our story of the past.

I don’t have that kind of heavy experience. If any lady in this forum with the experience, please let me know the positives and negatives of that kind of activity.

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Nadee,

Thanks for appreciating our Site.

From your question, I gather that you have already made up your mind about your future course of action, but are looking for confirmation from us about what you have decided.

One never forgets the first time one had sex and it is no surprise that you were not able to resist your Uncle when he returned and stayed with you and your Family. I am sure you enjoyed sex with him, more than when you were a teenager. Now, you are a grown woman and you know what your body desires. Though your husband may satisfy you in bed, the forbidden fruit always tastes sweet and when your mind creates an errotic sensation, your body will respond.  

Your Uncle will also be at the peak of his sexual desires and it is not for nothing that he bought you such costly presents. He must be vividly remembering the time when you were just a little girl and surely has a bond with you. You have not told us whether your Uncle is a Bachelor? All the more reason to shower his niece not only with costly presents but also his sperm.  

You have said, he uses me daily. Is that really true? Are you not enjoying his caresses, his kisses and his lust. You have not told us what else you have done with him? Is it anal sex?

You must insist that he use a condom when having sex. Since he was in a foreign land, he definitely would have had sex there and you do not know what partners he slept with (he will deny all this, if you ask him). A man can make you pregnant even if he is 65-70 years. So not only will a condom, prevent any STDs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases), but it will also prevent pregnancy. Remember you are married and if you get pregnant, things will become very difficult for you.

Now, about group Sex. It can be very enjoyable for a woman, if she removes the mental block from her mind. Group Sex, with 2 men, does not mean that one will penetrate your vagina and the other your anus, you can have sex with penetration in your vagina one after the other. A woman can orgasm many times and unlike a man does need a cooling off period.       

Consider, about both men making their demands on you. Will you be able to handle it? What happens if your husband comes to know? He may never know about your Uncle, as he is a Family member. The other Man may open his mouth (not just to suck your nipples and pussy) but to boast of his conquest. You may think that you may allow this only one time. It does not work that way. These things keep recurring.   

Have Fun, but think wisely.

 

answered Jan 22 by longhands1 (61,355 points)
commented Jan 25 by Nadee (120 points)
Hi.. thanks to share your valuable thought with me. You have asked few question back related to the problem and I would like to answer you. If you can give any more advice relate them, it would be appreciated.
No he is not a bachelor now he has a wife but live in abroad.
Still not done any single anal sex. But from the childhood he uses hip and crease his tool like man enjoy in public transport. He is fond of that activity and ask undress many times to kiss and touch it.
Considering all these thing I told him that if he can find someone who can enjoy only with my boobs I can allow group activity with him. Hope it is good for all parties without any bad effect to the life. Am I correct.
commented Jan 25 by longhands1 (61,355 points)

Nadee,

If you are confident that his wife will not know about your affair, you can continue. How long will he be here? Does not your husband suspect anything? Men, do understand when their wives are unusually happy. Are you having problems in your marriage?

So, anal sex is not in the equation. You said in your question that now you both are having intercourse and not the earlier way where he used to ejaculate on your hips. Do you honestly think that a new man will stop at just sucking your breasts. It will be rather difficult for you to control him in not going further. Since your Uncle will be having intercourse with you, it means that you will be nude and it is just a next step for the new partner to insert his penis in your vagina.

Why only go half way? If you are keen to have group Sex, then go the whole way. It will be more fun and less tension. You may as well enjoy the sex.

Insist on both of them using condoms, if they want to penetrate. Be firm. No condoms, no sex. They will have to agree.   

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Yes, he can surely make you pregnant if he does not use the condom so if you do not want to get pregnant then ask him to either use a condom or you should take the birth control pills otherwise you should be ready to be pregnant soon.  

You should have not allowed him to touch your body in the first place. You allowed him to fuck you so he would tend to take the advantage of you to live his fantasies.

One thing you should keep in mind that you are on the way of ruining your marriage life so if you do not wish to ruin your marriage life then you should stop having sex with him and stay away from him. Do not allow him to visit your house when you are alone. If you continue having sex with him then one day you will get caught by your husband and everything will be finished so it is not a wise decision to have sex with him now.

The group sex is out of question so do not think about it in any case. Moreover, by allowing your uncle to have sex with you without condom, you are playing with your husband’s health too which you do not have a right to make him suffer on your account. It seems that your uncle has multiple sexual partners and he must be having sex with all them without condom as he does not like to wear the condom so surely he carries the STD.

Don’t you think that your husband deserves a loyal wife as he is working his ass off to make your life luxuries? Overall, stop having sex with your uncle and stay loyal to your husband, if he tries to blackmail you then threaten him to get him arrested in the rape case. You had a sexual relationship with your uncle in the past but that was a premarital affair and it is a total different thing and your husband would have no right to blame you for that as he was not the part of your life then but what you are doing right now is extra marital affair and you are to blame for that as you do not have a right to cheat on your husband.

Stay away from him and focus on your married life as you have a son and husband who need you to be with them so it would be a ridiculous thing to ruin your marriage life for your uncle’s pleasure. 

answered Jan 22 by alpesh kapdi (19,805 points)
commented Jan 22 by gr8gaur (1,295 points)
edited Jan 22 by gr8gaur
No offence but can you spare a thought for your poor husband, for once ? Or maybe you're the kind that if you ever find out that your husband has an affair (in future) you won't get upset ? I mean, pretty open-minded.
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Well, It depends on your uncle. I am not a lady but I can give you some advice. I am in family affair for a long time and luckily it is going good. Me my sister and my mother and my uncle(my dad's brother) are having sex for a long time. Two ladies and two guys you can imagine all the combination. You told me that he wants you to have group sex with his friends. I would say no don't do it. They will use you like anything.

My mom has many illicit affairs in the past and now she knows a lot. Initially she had a boyfriend at her workplace, mom was young and he seduced her, so my young mom was getting pleasure from him but after that he started involving other persons. He used to have group sex with mom and two his friends. It was fun in the beginning but later it changed into blackmailing. Hopefully, she moved to some other place and cameras and mobile phone etc were not common those days.

Now she only have affair with chacha.My dad had a problem of blood pressure so mom has to look for alternatives.Once they tried group sex but they were all unknown people and never met each other again. Anyways It is my gentle advice not to indulge in such thing. They may take pictures of your and blackmail you further for other guys. You have a housewife and always think about your family. Take care. Do tell me what you decide.

answered Jan 22 by robotboy1 (655 points)
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Please don't opt for group sex. It is not sure that they will use condom while fucking and there is a chaznce of std from them. Slowly stop doing sex with your uncle also. Put a fight and slowly stop everything. U have a husband and a beautiful child..  Go ahead and enjoy ur family life with lots of love. Stop this bloddy lustful life immediately..
answered Jan 22 by shivarohan (200 points)

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