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How to stop the bad relationship of my brother and step mother?

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asked Feb 6 in Questions by SumaMadhavan (120 points)
edited Feb 7 by longhands1

I am a 20 year old girl and college student. I have one younger brother and his age is 17. My father is 45 years and my step mother is 35 years old.

My father married my step mother a year ago. Few days back, I returned from class early and came home unexpectedly. I saw my brother and step mother fucking in his bed. I was really shocked. What should I do now? How to end their relationship? My father knowing about this relationship would be danger.

Please help me.

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hi
first of all ,you are in a frustrating and depressing situation.undoubtedly their deed is wrong one.but its already done.and it is incorrigeble. its better to keep quite and act as if you have seen  nothing.please keep your self engaged in some activities like workouts or learning new courses inorder to forget what you have seen.else you will be suffering a lot remembering this.
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1.you can talk to your brother or step brother about this but ,i dont think that it will be of much use bcoz they may act that they feel guilty but they do continue this again with much precautionary measures.
2.you can inform your dad.but this is going to be a disaster.so,better dont do that.else you try to join your brother in a hostel by telling your father some lame excuses.but your step mom may indulge in the act with some outsider
answered Feb 6 by rreddy111r (105 points)
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Hello SumaMadhavan,

First of all let me tell you that if that profile picture which you kept is yours then you should not keep it here as you have to maintain privacy on such sites...

Coming to your question, I can understand your angryness about your problem.

Did they saw you when you caught them red handed or not is not clear from your question.

If they saw you then what was there reaction ?   Did they fear seeing you ?

 If they continue to do so then you can threaten your brother that you will tell your father about all this, see his response...if he fears then you will succeed..do watch their activities after you threaten your brother to check whether they really stopped it or not....

Raj
answered Feb 6 by Raj Handsome (890 points)
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Perhaps your step mom remains unsatisfied from your father.Your brother might have taken chance.You have no right to intervene in their consensual sex.You may ignore it.You may tell them separately that you have seen them fucking.Feel how they react.There may be a danger,either of them,may entrap you for sex with brother,to close your mouth.Think twice before taking any step.
answered Feb 6 by Motilal (5,530 points)
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Do they know that you know about them? Did you confront them? What did they say and since when its happening? Was the second marriage of your father love or arrange marriage ?
answered Feb 6 by gr8gaur (1,635 points)
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Hello Suma,

Sorry about what's happening within your house. But if your brother has already crossed the line with his step mom, it's difficult to make him not do it now. I guess the only option would be to send him for education away from home for a couple of years. But can we be sure that once he returns, he wouldn't fuck her again? Would she not sleep with him? Well, we can't foresee everything right now. Try confronting them and make them understand that it's not going to work out good for anyone in the family. Tell your brother he'll find many girls of his age as he grows up. And make your step mom understand that it's better for her to try working out her sexual life with her husband, and if he's not satisfying her, maybe she can find someone outside the house. It does less damage than sleeping with step son.

Regards,
Sadiq khan
answered Feb 7 by sadiq_khan (955 points)
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If they are doing consensual sex then you need not to worry.It seems that they are doing consensual.Did you entered home without knowing them and caught them red handedly? Because people in such relationships do care lot about their privacy.Since the age gape and relationships are in such a situation it is likely possible to have such an affair.This will automatically end once your brother focus on his career and left home for the purpose.

If you want to stop this relationship then talk(inform) with your father in all decent way what you have seen.He will take care of rest of things.You can suggest them to keep their affair secret as once it is known to your father then the real trouble begins.You can warn your brother and step mom not to repeat what you have seen.But warning would not work here as they had already tasted the pleasure available at home which might be missing from your father.Your role is limited in this act.You can either warn them or inform father and leave the issue on trio.
answered Feb 7 by whyiloveher2 (420 points)
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It is tough to give you a solution that will STOP this once and for all. But, you can talk to your step-mom and tell her that this would potentially destroy lives. Your brother is still a minor and incest is a crime. You need to have a proper talk with her and remind her of her responsibilities.

Talk to your brother as well and ask him to find someone his age. Communication seems to be the best way forward.
answered Feb 7 by Logical_Guru (185 points)
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I do not think that you can do much here as I doubt even if you talk to them about it they will listen to you instead there are chances that they start behavior with you in a hostile way so better to stay away from their personal matter. However, you can indirectly let them know that you are suspicious about them and you think that there is something up between two so they become more careful in the future.

Especially talk to your mom what would happen if your father comes to know about such possible incident but all the talk should be in an indirect way so she cannot blame you for anything. Overall, you should not get involved in their personal matter as that is not your business to do. Focus on your study and make a career to become an independent person. 

answered Feb 7 by alpesh kapdi (21,135 points)
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Hello Suma,

The best advice I can give you is to leave things alone. You say you caught them in the act, but to they know that you know what they are up to? If they are blissfully unaware that you know they are having sex, then that is probably the way you should leave things.

I am sure that you are distressed because your brother is cheating on his dad, and dad's new wife is cheating on him with your own brother, but I want to counsel against you being the agent of their exposure. Though it is extremely unfair for people to react the way they will, I can tell you now that if you bring this to everyone's attention, the perversity of human nature will mean that you will end up being hated by everybody. Your stepmother will feel guilty for what she's doing, and will resent you for forcing her to confront her own guilt. Your brother will hate you, because he expects his sister to be on his side. Again he will resent you for spoiling his fun, and after his father has given him a thorough beating, or perhaps threatened to throw him out of the house, or whatever retribution may be due, he will hate you for causing this to happen to him. Your father, after the shock of discovering that his wife is cuckolding him with his own son, or feel resentment towards you for breaking up the family. Make no mistake, revelations like this invariably destroy the family totally.

The likelihood is that they will get caught, and it will result in a massive upheaval. But for your own sake, you don't want to be the agent of that up evil. If your dad is going to find out what's happening, you would be far better off if you could plead complete ignorance, and your reaction should be one of horror and shock. At least that way, you will still have your father's love, as he will not see you as being the one who was catalyst in the whole mess.

It isn't fair, but you would be caught right in the middle of it all, and that is the worst position to be in.

If they know that you know, the chances are they will stop what they are doing, or at the very least, they will behave with far more discretion. As it is, your stepmother is breaking the law, as the Indian penal code does not allow people to have sex below the age of 18. I'm not quite sure what the actual charge would be, but certainly having sex with a minor would see her in very hot water. But you don't want to be going to the police about this matter.

If you are determined to try to stop these things taking place, wait for an opportunity to speak to your stepmother alone. Tell her that you have seen what she is doing with your brother, and that she must stop it, as she is running the risk of destroying the entire family. Don't try threatening to tell your dad, as she may well call your bluff, and then you are left with no option but to put up or shut up. All you can really do is appeal to her sense of honour, so it would appear she doesn't have one.

I'm sorry if my advice doesn't really give you away of resolving this problem, but sometimes, there is no easy way of dealing with things. Better to leave them to make their own mistakes, rather than put yourself right in the middle of the whole thing.

Love,

Salma
answered Feb 7 by sexysalma (14,920 points)
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Best option here is to be silent because your brother and your step mom have move forward in their game of sex
Your step mom may have trapped your brother in this act and he being a teen may have fallen very early
If you try to tell anyone about this and if your step mom comes to know about this then you may face some trouble like Your step mom may force you to fuck your own brother blackmail you later by showing to videos with brother
She may force you for anything later
Be careful think wisely
answered Feb 9 by pavan350 (700 points)
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hello madam, it's clear that both of them are already into eachother so it's better you keep quiet or you should take this matter to your father instead of dealing it yourself
answered Feb 17 by adityaarya (210 points)

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