I'm surprised that more parents don't ask this question.
Given the abysmal state of knowledge that many of our younger readers (and not so young) display, sex education is woefully inadequate, and as far as I'm concerned, it starts with the parents. To my mind, is one of the fundamental duties of all parents to educate their children about sex, and I'm not talking about the simple mechanics of it, I'm talking about the whole loving relationship issues, and the various activities that all form part of one's sexual experiences.
I can never understand why people get embarrassed about this. After all, we all have sex, and hopefully we all enjoy it. And there is so much in sex to be enjoyed, why do we want to make such a big mystery about it?
Children are naturally inquisitive, a look at their own bodies, they look at the bodies of their brothers and sisters, and sometimes they see their parents naked, or seminaked, and don't think that they are not wondering, every time they look. Nowadays, in spite of various programs to stop kids getting access to things like pornography, any reasonably intelligent eight-year-old child can find porn if they have access to any communication device. And if you think they're not looking, think again!!!
When I first started venturing onto this forum, one of the things that shocked me was how little people understand about the most basic things in sex. It mystifies me that people can come on this forum, and ask basic questions about whether or not they can make somebody pregnant by a ejaculatory into their girlfriends mouth. If you can find this forum, you can find sex education websites just as easily, if not more easily. You can learn about the detailed anatomy of both male and female sex organs, and about their function. You can learn about sexually transmitted infections, you can learn about the A-Z of sexual practices, from the most basic, right the way through to the most exotic and perverse. Yet we still have people coming on here asking about whether swallowing semen is harmful, or if anal intercourse can make a girl pregnant!!!
If all children received proper and detailed sex education, starting with mum and dad explaining things to them, then we wouldn't get such ill informed questions on this forum.
It doesn't matter how many times I, and all the other editors and the moderator try to tell people to do a bit of research before they write to us, we still get people asking the same things all the time. Even as I write this, you will find ignorance abounding across the pages of this forum.
For the most part, I blame the total lack of honesty of both parents and the education authorities in the Indian subcontinent. I'm from London, and sex education is taught properly in the UK. What's more, there is no stigma attached to telling your children all about sex. My parents gave me a thorough education, and I knew exactly what it was all about, how to do it, how to avoid pregnancy, and how to extract the most pleasure possible from sex. But I know that some of my girlfriends, and I went to a school where at least 60% of the pupils were from the Indian subcontinent, or second-generation Asian English girls, had a similar problem to those which we see on this forum. White parents and black parents in the UK have no problems talking to their kids about sex, but Asian parents are still backward!!!
There really is no excuse for not talking to your children about one of the most important aspects of life!!! And as for teachers that skip around the subject, and, as one person who wrote in recently said, tell their pupils to read the text in the book, without discussing anything, I believe that they should be dismissed. People like that are not be worthy of the teaching profession. Teachers are supposed to teach, and that doesn't mean selecting the bits they like, and avoiding the bits they don't want to talk about.
I can't claim that we've got everything right in the United Kingdom, or anywhere else in the Western world, as it still doesn't prevent such things as unwanted pregnancies, sexually transmitted infections and so on, but all of us who have children oh it to them to give them a proper education about sex, as well as about every other subject that is important to them. India is rapidly becoming one of the world's most dynamic countries, yet in some ways it is still sadly lacking behind. The young generation that is growing up right now, I hope, will recognise the importance of good education about sex, so that future generations will be far better equipped for life than the current generations are now
People seem to be scared to talk to their kids about sex, and I suppose it is because they believe it will make them promiscuous. Well, all of you, wake up and smell the coffee!!! If the pages of this former anything to go by, promiscuity is alive and kicking, and young people are finding out themselves about sex, in the absence of any kind of education from their elders.