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I will have a threesome with my husband and sister - need advice

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asked May 5 in Questions by shannamccllgh (135 points)
edited May 7 by longhands1

Hi,

I have a question that I don't know where else to ask.

I am 30 and have been very happily married for 5 years. We have a good sex life and are open about our fantasies with each other. My husband's fantasy is having a threesome with another woman (as most men I guess). I am not bothered with that. The thought does excite me but we never pursued the fantasy, not in the least because we wouldn't have an idea who to do it with.

I am very close to my sister who is 32. She recently divorced and she told me that it was because the sex with her ex husband was always bad and not satisfying. She had been complaining about this for a long time, about 2 years, before they divorced.

So my husband and me have developed the fantasy of asking her for a threesome. The thought of this turns me on, because it is so kinky and wrong.

I suggested this to her, and she has let me know that she is up for it. To be clear, we wouldn't make love to each other, it would be him taking care of us, one at a time. We would give him oral together, but wouldn't go any further than that.  My sister and me talked about this, and we are both excited about it.

So we are going to go ahead with this.

My question is: has anybody been in a situation that is even remotely similar to this? Could this end very badly, and can we avoit it? I am close to my sister and love my husband, so I don't want to ruin these relationships.

I would really appreciate any advice!

Thanks!

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What if she conceives or what if your husband divorce you and marries her?

You are playing with fire..
answered May 5 by Tanzeel (170 points)
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Hi,

Well I read your answer. I have not been exactly in the same situation, but I have been in a similar one. I have been in threesome with my sister and her boyfriend. It was MMF threesome and initially we were also afraid that it may create complications but it was amazing and addictive.

Well there are a lot of things you need to think of. Your sister is a divorcee she may develop love feelings for your husband. She is also sex starved. She may attract or satisfy your husband better.

The thing here is in case of threesome no matter who is the participant you must not compare partners. You must take care of jealousy. As she is your sister, may be seeing your husband with her on bed may make you sad or jealous. The other problem is what if you are outside and they fuck behind your back ? Are you ready for such things?

There are not much complication if you play well. For me, I have been in incest for past 3 years and now I understand her needs very well. It is still going on and very well.

You take care and enjoy.

answered May 5 by robotboy1 (685 points)
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Cuckold is a term used for men sharing their women but i don't know about the opposite term of it. To answer your questions one by one:

1. No I don't have any experience of FMF or MMF.

2. 'Could this end very badly' you ask, YES! if you love your husband and you're the jealous types who's just trying to play with fire. If you're broad minded and think that 'okay I love my husband but sharing him doesn't bother me at all', then its fine. What if your husband gets attracted to your sister? What if he starts hooking up with her behind your back and without your knowledge, will it bother you? What if your husband decides to leave you for your sister even though he won't do it knowing he can now have two of you anytime so why chose one over another?

3. 'Can we avoid it', not 'WE' but you only, you're the one to be affected with the idea of having your sister as another F in this trio of FM'F'.

You like the fantasy of your husband cause it excites you and brings spice to your sex life but you must be mentally prepared for the consequences of pursuing it, for there is no comeback when you pull the trigger once. Not all fantasies turn up to be happiness once it becomes reality, you know what I mean. At the end of it, all depends on your psyche.
answered May 5 by gr8gaur (1,655 points)
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This can be fun if involve people keep the boundaries with each other so first before going for threesome make a few boundaries which everyone has to respect it. Let your sister and your husband know that if anyone feels pressure or does not like it then he/she must be open to end it and the other should not force anyone.

Three of you together have to decide what the rules, which everyone has to follow. Check the emotional issue, especially you have to check the emotional issue as you are in a vulnerable situation more than anyone else. You should keep the jealousy issue aside as there might be a possibility that initially your husband would give more attention to your sister as she would be the new partner and you have to understand this.

Threesome and group sex are more common these days and people are enjoying it because of the kinky part in it so you can definitely do it but make sure that your personal relationship should not affected with anyone.

You should tell your husband that he can only have with her sister and you people are doing a threesome because he has to keep in mind that threesome does give him open right to have sex with your sister whenever he wants or you are not available. It sounds that three of you are ready for the threesome so go for it and update us with your experience. 

answered May 6 by alpesh kapdi (21,465 points)
commented May 6 by shannamccllgh (135 points)
Hi all,

Thanks for your answers.  Just to let you know, we are not jealous, and I am sure my husband won't cheat on me.  He has always been very clear and honest about that.  It's something we really want, all three of us.

Your answers are great, gave me a lot of things to think about. Many thanks!
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Well congratulations on getting to a higher level of sex. Few people achieve it and I hope it turns out fabulous for the 3 of you. The main thing about sex is the sexual tension in that situation and if one gets to indulge one's fantasy, nothing can come close to the ecstasy of that moment. Your planned night turns you on so much because it is ravishingly kinky and breaks so many taboos, which will only heighten the pleasure.

But you need to know that threesomes are notorious for becoming a mess. That usually happens when it isn't properly planned. So you need to plan all the stuff properly. More importantly, you need to have a close connection with your sister so both of you can coordinate your moves.

There is one thing that I see as a major hindrance. Since you have ruled out that you will not have sex with your sister, that means that your husband will be the only one doing all the action. Now I hate to break it to you but this will leave you less satisfied than one on one sex. The attention of your husband will be divided between the two of you and so both of you will only receive half the sex that you got before. With an MFM threesome, the woman can satisfy both men. But with an FMF, the man cannot have sex with both women for obvious reasons. FMF sex only succeeds when the 2 women are also into each other. Otherwise, it is just one on one sex with the other person watching and feeling left out or craving for action.
answered May 6 by Tuff (305 points)
commented May 8 by shannamccllgh (135 points)
Hi,

Thanks for your answer.  That is a very good point that you raise, about me and my sister not having sex with each other. Actually, one thing that I find really exciting is the thought of seeing my husband make love with her.  For my sister it is the same.  I am sure he can satisfy us both, he often makes me come multiple times during intercourse.

Have you had bad experiences with threesomes when the women don't have sex with each other?
commented May 8 by Tuff (305 points)
Hello,

I'm happy that you find my answer interesting. Lol. As a matter of fact, I have experienced threesomes during the time I was completing my masters abroad. One was good and one was awesome.

The first time was with my GF and a friend of hers. As we had been planning for it but hadn't planned who would do what, it turned out to be slightly clumsy. Another thing was that they were friends and so both had kept their hands off each other. This meant one was watching and one was getting done. This was slightly off putting as it did not become a moment of madness where everyone is just lost in pleasure. Now that is important. I mean what is the point of a threesome if you are just not completely lost in hedonistic pleasure?

The second time was with a class fellow and her friend. We were out drinking and then went back to their place. You can understand what happened next. This was awesome. Both were just crazy and we went all in. I am a well built tall man and so I am used to controlling my space. But those girls just took control over there. I wasn't doing them. They were doing me! Haha. They were all over each other and were using me as their toy. Speaking of toys, one of the girls had a strap on which she used on the other girl (haha not me!). Needless to say, we banged our brains out.

So the advice that I can give you for this is;

1. No lip lock for the other woman. That is important. No matter how secure you are. This is more an emotional thing and less an act of sex.

2. Must coordinate with your sister. If you want to go ahead with this romp, you should plan what goes where. Who does whom. What the other sister will be doing.

3. See threesomes is not just about having sex together. It is about having sex with each other. About being pleasured at both ends. So I would suggest both sisters first develop an interest in each other sexually. Unless you both see each other sexually, you will always find a hesitation when indulging in a threesome. Again, you don't need any lip lock as that is emotional. But you can start by touching each other. During the threesome, that would be a much higher turn on for all of you.

Hmmm.. This is what I can think of off the top of my mind. Will let you know if I remember something else.
commented May 9 by shannamccllgh (135 points)
Hi,

Thanks for all this info! Very helpful and interesting!

My sister and me have already talked (fantasized) about what we want. The thing that excites both of us most is giving him a blowjob together. I think that is going to be so hot. My husband is well endowed, so there is enough penis for both of us...

We know that doing that our lips and tongues will touch, but that is ok. Doing the other stuff we talked about our bodies will touch, that's ok too. But doing each other with a strap-on or giving each other oral, that is too much.

I talked to my husband about this and he is of course also excited about doing it this way.

We are going to go ahead with it this weekend. Thanks so much for your thoughts, they are helpful.

Thanks!
commented May 10 by Tuff (305 points)
Man you guys are on a roll. I agree with you here. That's why I suggested touching and petting for both of you sisters to get comfortable with each other beforehand, rather than the more risque stuff.

And the most important thing that I forgot was you need copious amounts of alcohol to wash away any inhibitions. Not outright drunkenness but just enough to make you go for your sister's lips without a pause. Momentum is the key.

Happy hunting. And do share your experiences. It just might convince my lovely other half to try this stuff some time.
commented May 21 by shannamccllgh (135 points)
Hi,

II'm sharing some experiences later this thread, to avoid having to repeat them...

Cheers
commented May 24 by Tuff (305 points)
Hey Shanam,

Good to know that you guys did it and enjoyed it. It is brilliant when it goes well. Now, if you won't mind, I would like to get your advice on this. Actually I've experienced this stuff but that was abroad and it was never my initiative. One was by my then GF and the other was a happy accident. So the question is how do we introduce this stuff to our fairer partner in India? Are ladies over here up for it? The other thing is how do we go about it if they do accept it? As in what was acceptable and what was the most enjoyable for you as a woman?

The thing is that my partner is quite liberal and adventurous, and we have talked about threesome fantasies. But I stay on the safe side because she is the most important thing to me. So I want your guidance on what's safe here and what should never be proposed (Haha.. I know the strap on bit is a definite no no.. so i'm not going to bring that up :D). Of course if she will shoot it down, I will not mention it again.
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i dont think there will be any problem...just enjoy and fulfill your fantacies...we are also doing same..not with sister but another woman....its really addictive and joyful...
answered May 6 by coupleindia10 (180 points)
commented May 8 by shannamccllgh (135 points)
Hi, thanks ! In your case, do the women have sex with each other, or only with the man?
commented May 8 by coupleindia10 (180 points)
We have sex in all combinations, w2w, mwm, wmw,,,,group all four...
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Shannam,

I think you have come to the right place to give vent to your doubts. Nowhere else you will find the anonymity and diverse views that are expressed here.

Sex is all about experimenting - nothing ventured, nothing gained. Sex is also about confidence and mutual consent. You seem to have all these in your fantasy of a threesome. The fact that it is in the Family will ensure the secrecy and confidentiality that is desired.  

What is important is that you should have the confidence that you will not waver. Jealousy is a potent danger. Often we cannot plan and determine how an individual will react in a given situation. You should be prepared to handle the situation if your husband falls in love with your Sister-in-law. Often union of bodies leads to affection and does not remain only at sex.      

Is your SIL on pills? It would mess things up, if she got pregnant at this stage. Using a condom with her and not with you, will lead to a divide. Will you meet up at her place or yours? Why I ask, is because, her place will make her feel more comfortable and at ease. She will not feel like a guest.

Remember that sometimes fantasies are better than reality.    

Have Fun. Do let us know how it went.
 

answered May 9 by longhands1 (69,685 points)
commented May 9 by shannamccllgh (135 points)
Hi,
Thanks for your thoughts!
I am very close with my sister. One of the things we agreed on very quickly was the condom thing-thanks for bringing it up. She suggested that he wear a condom when making love with her, and none when making love with me. I think that is a good start. My husband agrees with this.
I trust and love my husband deeply, and I am not so worried about jealousy. Of course, that could change when it acutally happens. The thought of seeing him make love with her really turns me on, because I am so close with her.
Right now she is living in a tiny appartment, so we are going to do this at our place. We have more space. She has been here many times, especially during and after her divorce. The three of us are very close, so I am not worried that she will not be comfortable.
Yes, turning a fantasy into a reality is a challenge. But, as you say, that is why I asked for advice here.
Do you have experience with threesomes? I would like to know about the experiences of other people.
Thanks so much for your thoughts!
commented May 9 by longhands1 (69,685 points)

shannam,

Seems like you have thought about all things and covered alll bases. Yes, it would be a great turn on for you and your husband would love being at the "giving" end. 

Many men imagine their wives having sex with another man, but rarely do women imagine this. Generally out of jealousy. But since you are confident about yourself and your sister playing fair, there is no reason why you should not give it a try.

If your sister could take other pregnancy precautions, it would be more fun to have sex without a condom. Since there are no risks of STDs, going bare back would lead to greater bonding between the three of you. 

After all, nothing ventured...nothing gained.   

commented May 21 by shannamccllgh (135 points)
Hi,

We have done this last weekend, and I am still amazed about how hot it was.

After a while, when my sister and me gave my husband a blowjob together, I thought that was the hottest thing I had ever done.  It was such a turn-on to see his big penis in her mouth, see her sucking it, and then me licking his penis at the same time.  It was also very hot to kiss him an watching her go at it.  And to see him enjoy it.

But then when she started riding his cock it was even hotter.  Seeing his penis move into and out of her made me sooooo horny.  I layed between his legs, very carefully watching his penis, masturbating, and licking his balls every now and then.  We all came at the same time.  It was fabulous.

We had sex a number of times that night.  It was soooo hot, it was amazing.  Funny thing is that my sister feels about it pretty much the same was as I do.  There was no jealousy at all.

We'll do this again sometime soon.

Thanks everybody for all your advice!
commented May 27 by longhands1 (69,685 points)

shannam,

Reading your Account was a great turnon. I can well imagine what it mush have done to the three of you.

Now that you have crossed the barrier, keep experrimenting and wish you greater orgasms. Afterr all it is what happens in the mind that is more exciting than the physical aspect. Sharing can be truly liberating and if it is with Family it feels even better.

Wishing you Luck in bed. Do keep our Members updated.

 

commented Jun 1 by M_ann16 (350 points)
Hi..So did u n your sis tried some girly romping...If not then try it next time..
Especially when he is in u.. ask it sis to suck your melons or your pussy.

I have had this kind of sessions in past.. I m jealous of your husband , coz he got such a accommodating wife.... I wish I had one
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Hi Dear,

About threesome, if you are engaged with unknown person then there is no issue, but if you are involved with a person who is already alone then there is a risk because she does not have anything to lose.

I am not against threesome but here the situation is very difficult as you mention that your sister has taken divorce due to lack of sex. It means your sister has some extra desires on bed and she may be able to perform better then to you.

These thing may lead to big issues or will make obstruction in your future relationship. If you want to start threesome with your sister, I must advice you to analyse your sister's fantasy and her stamina on bed. Just ask her what she likes in bed and make very clear view about her performance and compare with your hubby's desires.

You well know about your husband's likes in bed. After knowing all things take the wise decision.

Best of luck.

answered May 11 by kingmyaqueen (1,735 points)
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So did u n your sis tried some girly romping...If not then try it next time..
Especially when he is in u.. ask it sis to suck your melons or your pussy.

I have had this kind of sessions in past.. I m jealous of your husband , coz he got such a accommodating wife.... I wish I had one
answered Jun 5 by M_ann16 (350 points)

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