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Should I have my first time Sex with this married woman who I met on FaceBook ?

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asked Jun 15 in Questions by Raj Handsome (890 points)
edited Jun 16 by longhands1

Hello All,

I am from Pune and right now preparing for competitive exams. I am 24 years old and still virgin. I am from very good family background. Due to studies, I avoided or rather not looked that much into having sex with girl till now.

There is a married woman aged around 36-37 who I know. We met on FaceBook around 2 onths back. She is also from Pune. Since then we had regular chat and sometimes even  sex chats. She has a son around 8 years old. Her husband lives in Hyderabad, due to his work. He comes home only 1-2 times in 3 months. She lives with her son and mother in law.

She seriously wants to have sex with me. She even asked me to meet one day and directly said we can have sex on that date. But I told her some reasons to avoid the situation as I was new to this situation. I too want to lose my virginity desperately because I can't control my desire. Now we have made a plan to meet on 19th June. She has another flat apart from her home where we can meet there and can have sex there. 

Please take a trouble to answer my following questions as early as possible as I have little time :

1) Should I take this step or not ? 

2) Will this one time sex lead me to addiction for sex ? 

3) Will this encounter affect my studies?

4) What married woman want from a young guy? 

5) What are the precautions I have to take while having first time sex? 

6) How can I give her pleasure as I am new to this sex world? 

7) Which are safe sex positions to try for first time? 

8) I have an uncircumcised penis. Is it ok to have sex with uncircumcised penis? Will it pain for first time sex ? "

Thanks and Regards,

Raj

commented Jul 25 by Raj Handsome (890 points)
Hello Guys,
Sorry for late comment on this question.
Actually on 19th of June we had to cancel our plan because that lady had to go urgently to her husband's place Hyderabad.
Still she is there in Hyderabad.
When she will return then we will plan our meet again.
Thanks all of you for taking your valuable time and responding to my question.
I will update here in comments regarding our meet in future.

Raj



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1. Go ahead. She wants to have sex. You want to have sex. It is natural.

2. Sex cannot lead sex addiction. Immaturity can. You can get addicted to sex, or you can get addicted to masturbation. The thing is that you have to manage yourself.

3. It will only affect your studies if you let it take over your mind. Just have sex and then concentrate on your studies. Why can't both go ahead together?

4. Married women want sex from young guys because their husbands have made the mistake of abandoning them.

5. Just be discreet and tell no one about this. Use condoms. Make sure you don't get caught. One more thing. Some women have a habit of controlling young guys so you have to make sure this lady doesn't get this leverage on you.

6. She will guide you how to give her pleasure. Just enjoy yourself and she will enjoy that too.

7. All positions are safe for sex as long as you are using a condom.

8. You will have to find that out yourself. Don't think too much about this.
answered Jun 15 by Tuff (315 points)
commented Jun 16 by Raj Handsome (890 points)
Thanks Tuff for taking efforts to answer my question. Actually I am having self control on my actions. I follow the rules of masturbating only 3 times a week,never exceed more than that. I just wanted to have sex experience because it's forbidden fruit which i just wanted to taste. I feel incomplete without having sex because I never had it single time till now in my life.I never seen any naked female in real nor even sucked her boobs or kissed any female till now. I just wanted to break that jinx.I just want to try it once and then want to forget about it. As far as that woman is concerned,she is so good in chat.I don't think she is a type of controlling young guys. I am just afraid that will it create guilt in my mind during studies or after marriage that I had sex before marriage ?
commented Jun 17 by Tuff (315 points)
You should not have any guilt. Having sex is a natural thing. Enjoy it and move on.
commented Jun 20 by Raj Handsome (890 points)
Thanks for the advice Tuff
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Concentrate your mind for your competitive examinations. You have done right thing till now. Facebook friends are most un-reliable in the matter of sex. They can't be trusted. It is better to choose from your known girl friends or women.

I have done preliminaries with few women before marriage but fucked wife on first night at 30. I am against sexual intercourse before marriage. Cancel your appointment on 19th June and save yourself from the clutches of that woman.

My answers to your query is 1)No,2)Depends upon your involvement and mental strength,3) It should affect your studies,4)Sex from different guys like you,5) Use condom,6) I wouldn't give any advise to go ahead,7) None,8) No problem with uncircumcised penis.My penis is also uncircumcised.If your foreskin of penis does not slide properly....pain is  imminent.

answered Jun 15 by Motilal (6,020 points)
commented Jun 16 by Raj Handsome (890 points)
Thanks for feedback Motilal.
I never made any girlfreind or any friend with benefits in my life because study being my main focus.Most of woman around me who I know are from good family background.So I can't ask them for this. It may create problem in two families if she denies my offer.
You said you have done preliminaries with few woman before marriage but I not even done that also in my life.I never even kissed any female nor sucked or pressed boobs. I haven't seen any female naked till now. At this age of 24,how can I control my desires ? I wanted to taste this forbidden fruit once. After this encounter I will not do it again. I am just afraid that will it create guilt in my mind during studies or after marriage that I had sex before marriage ?
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Raj,

Not a very good idea. You will soon be embroiled in a full time affair. You are at the cusp of your career (competitive exams are just that …..competitive) and any change of focus will have a bearing on your future. Just the thought that you are going to have sex the first time, would have already given you sleepless nights with a hard-on to think about.

If you are thinking that this will just be a one off thing, life does not work like that. Since she is also living in Pune, you will have easy access and spend every moment you are awake, thinking about her and the great time you are having with her.  

Her circumstances (living away from Husband) and pining for sex, makes you easy fodder. There is no doubt the sex will be divine (it always is the first time). Since she knows what it takes to have sex, she would guide you all the way. All you need to do is to get naked. The great advantage of having sex with a  MILF, is that they have no demands for love and just want SEX, which is also your agenda.

Of course, once you have sex, you will want it again and again….maybe even 5-6 times in a Session. But then that can happen even when you are masturbating.

I suggest you put it off till you give the Exams. Often the thought of the icing on the cake is better than eating the cake immediately. Do not forget to stock up on Condoms if you decide otherwise.

Best of Luck in your Decision.

answered Jun 15 by longhands1 (71,455 points)
edited Jun 16 by longhands1
commented Jun 16 by Raj Handsome (890 points)

Thanks Longhands for feedback.

Actually  I just wanted to have sex experience because it's forbidden fruit which i just wanted to taste. I feel incomplete without having sex because I never had it single time till now in my life.I never seen any naked female in real nor even sucked her boobs or kissed any female till now. I just wanted to break that jinx.I just want to try it once and then want to forget about it.

Even though we live in same cities but my coaching is about to end and I will go to my hometown and will study there. So I will not be having easy access to her.

I am just afraid that will it create guilt in my mind during studies or after marriage that I had sex before marriage ?

commented Jun 16 by longhands1 (71,455 points)

Raj,

Glad to see you give feedback to every Answer you got. It helps us give better advice when there is a dialogue and we can gauge what you are thinking.

So, what if you have never seen a woman naked before? It does not make you a freak. On the contrary it reflects on your good upbringing. You are at that stage of your Life when the hormones are raging and you want to taste the forbidden fruit (as you said) as quickly as possible.

There are a few pitfalls:

It is never easy to pull back (not figuratively, though that all is true!) from having sex. It will continue. Since you do not have to wine and dine a girlfriend and put up with her flimsy demands and in this case you are getting a pussy on a platter, it will be difficult for you not to succumb. But it will not end there.

You are meeting this woman for the first time. You know nothing about her. The fact that she has a spare flat and may have used it before, is a thought you need to consider.

Your first sex experience will always remain with you. When you get married, you will compare this with your wife and the marriage will begin on a false note. Often, the guilt cannot be gotrid of and the only person you can share it with, will be your wife. How she takes it will determine how your marriage goes.

It may be better to first go out for a cup of coffee and see if you are comfortable and then decide what you should do next.

Best of Luck   

commented Jun 16 by Raj Handsome (890 points)
LH,

Yes,You guessed it right that my upbringing is good. Credit goes to my parents.

Also you said correct that at my age my harmones are raging so much. when I got horny and see any naked woman/girl photo or I watch porn , I feel to have sex with female.

As per my chatting with her, I don't think that she has used that flat earlier for such actions with other guys.She is so much shy by nature. But I will get confirmation about her actual nature only after meeting and spending some time with her.

About sharing my first sex experience with my future wife ,that I am not gonna do even if I will feel extreme guilt. This is because it will definately hamper my future married life. About 90 % girls want their husband virgin before marriage and vice versa atleast in India.I don't know whether I will get wife in those remaining 10 % who accept their spouse to be non virgin.

You said correct that I should spend some time with her maybe a cup of coffee or a lunch in hotel or movie. We will know each other more by doing that.

Thanks for solving my query friend.

Regards
  Raj
commented Jun 20 by longhands1 (71,455 points)

Raj,

"She is so much shy by nature" ....Hey seems you do not know much about women. Next, you will tell me she is soooo innocent.

Nice, to see that you are so protective of her, even before you have got her nude!!

commented Jun 21 by Raj Handsome (890 points)
Haha...
Will share my experience here after meeting...
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Go ahead but then you should be sure that you don't get addicted to sex or her. Tell her that you're building your career and there can't be much expectations from each other.
answered Jun 15 by gr8gaur (1,680 points)
commented Jun 16 by Raj Handsome (890 points)
Thansk for feedback gr8gaur
I will take in consideration that I will not get addicted to this.
I am just afraid that will it create guilt in my mind during studies or after marriage that I had sex before marriage ?
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Dear RH,

Before moving to bed directly spend some time for each other. It would be helpful for both of you to know each other so that the intimacy before sex would be good.
Sex with new partner is always risky so use protection that will helpful you in long term. When you will taste her assets then it would be difficult for you to keep abstinence. If you find a genuine and reliable partner then enjoy it without any double mind. If you want happiness then you have to put  continuous efforts.

As a married woman she knows you will be good horse in Long run so don't worry, she will train you.
answered Jun 15 by bubu_002 (2,735 points)
edited Jun 15 by bubu_002
commented Jun 16 by Raj Handsome (890 points)
Thanks bubu_002 for feedback.
You are right. I will keep in mind that I will spend some quality time before movin to bed. She is genuine and reliable that I can say surely. I don't want to do multiple time sex with her. I just want to taste the sex once because it will create lots of my confusion about sex or how to be intimate with opposite sex. I want to do it once and then I will never do the same again.
I am just afraid that will it create guilt in my mind during studies or after marriage that I had sex before marriage ?
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1.Yes, you should take this step and you should have sex with her as it is not a wise decision to let go a married woman who is ready to have sex with you as it is a really hard to get a married woman for sex and since you have one I think without thinking much get into her pants and make her addicted to your penis so she cannot live without your penis.

2.There are chances that you may get addicted to sex as real sex is something no one can forget as it gives great pleasure but what is the problem if you get addicted to it as sex is a natural thing and you should have it if she does not have any problem to offer her vagina all the time.

3.This encounter may affect  your study if you are unable to balance your study and your sex life so you should think about it first whether you are able to balance everything or not. When I was in college I was in a sexual relationship with a married woman and I was able to balance everything and today I am a successful engineering and earning good money so I can safely say that sex had not affected my study at all instead it gives me a pleasure so I can focus on my study.

4.marreid women want a penis inside her vagina when their husbands are unable to meet their physical need. Therefore, she only wants your penis and I am sure your penis wants an experience vagina like she has.

5.you should use a condom for the protection.

6.just have sex with her and she will be in pleasure as your penis would do the rest of the work for her so do not worry about her pleasure at all. However, if you do not know how to please her then ask her what she wants you to do with her and follow her instructions as she has experience so use it to learn new things.

7.you can have sex with her in any position you like.

8.Uncirmcuncised penis may create a problem for you but that is not necessary so have sex with her see how you feel it. 

answered Jun 16 by alpesh kapdi (21,860 points)
edited Jun 16 by longhands1
commented Jun 16 by Raj Handsome (890 points)
Thanks Alpesh for your feedback.
Actually I don't want to do multiple times sex with her. I just want to taste the sex once because it will create lots of my confusion about sex or how to be intimate with opposite sex. I want to do it once and then I will never do the same again.
I am just afraid that will it create guilt in my mind during studies or after marriage that I had sex before marriage ? If I do sex for once with that woman then how to balance these sex thoughts which may come in mind during studies ?
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Y not go ahead just be careful when you meet someone for the first time.
answered Jun 17 by myselfarun (670 points)
commented Jun 20 by Raj Handsome (890 points)
Thanks..
I will keep that in mind
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Are you so extremely good looking and ir-irresistibly attractive that a 37 year old, post birth, woman  just cannot avoid spreading her legs on your first meetup ?

If so, you would not be a virgin now, whatever focus you have on your studies.

If she wants to have sex with you,  extremely high probability that you are going to land in hot water.
answered Jun 18 by blore.guy (305 points)
commented Jun 20 by Raj Handsome (890 points)
Excuse me...
For your kind information..I am good looking and lots of girls of my age have crush on me...
And about your connection of my virginity with my looks is pathetic...I already told in my question that I am from good family background...My upbringing is good...That's the reason I am still virgin...I kept control on my feelings or rather due to study I haven't thought of such things...From your narration, you seem to believe that every good looking boy or girl looses his/her virginity till the age of 24...What a poor thinking you have...Absolutely disgrace...
commented Jun 22 by Motilal (6,020 points)
Sex is not a sin.People of good or bad family back ground both are involved in sex.Teacher and priest,Father and son,Mother and daughter all are doing sex.Enjoy sex but restrict yourself.
commented Jun 26 by Raj Handsome (890 points)
Yes...Thanks Motilal
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Raj you.got some good and some bad suggestions. At the end its your decision what to do.
 I had send you pm regarding this. I hope that may help you to clear somethings.
answered Jun 22 by Harsh.03 (435 points)
commented Jul 4 by solliadi (1,295 points)
Raj Handsome
I am late in reading your post.
What happened on 19th June.
As you are still virgin, your relation with your mausi also in tact.
commented Jul 25 by Raj Handsome (890 points)
Solliadi,
I have posted regarding that in comment to this question.
Yes my relation with mausi is good.
Let's hope I will grab opportunity next time when I will meet her.

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