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Is it okay to have sex with my friend's husband?

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asked Jul 22 in Questions by kavita_s12 (120 points)
edited Jul 24 by longhands1

Hi,

I'm Kavita, 26 year old housewife. My husband is working in a private company. He is a workaholic and he has no interest in having sex. I have a friend. She is my neighbor. Her husband is having a boutique in the city. He is so handsome and he is a pervert.

Whenever I go to his boutique I wear see through saree. I have seen him staring at my navel and ass. I like being stared by him. I'm not the only woman being stared by him.

Four months ago I went to his boutique at night time of closing. He invited me to his cabin and asked me to sit there. After closing the whole shop he came back and he sit there beside me. I went close to him and kissed him on the lips and then I removed his jeans zip and took out his penis and sucked it until he ejaculated.

Then he fucked me very roughly that night for one hour. After that night we have been regularly having sex almost on every weekends.

Do you think I should continue this relationship?

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commented Jul 22 by Rati.Anil (260 points)
Of course, you shall continue..
Just be careful not to get caught.
commented Jul 23 by myselfarun (415 points)
yes its ok you as you didnt force him to do that u both mutually agreed. on the other hand ans to ur question is if its okay?

well yes but do consider an escape plan if u get caught by ur husband aur if anybody from his boutique gets to know about it? u will be in trouble so plan things if u want to continue then do it super secretly and on ur ground

hope i helped u
commented Jul 25 by Raj Handsome (890 points)
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It depends on you whether to continue with him or not as no one can suggest you what you should do in your personal life so if you like and enjoy with him then you should continue with him. There are many things morally and ethically but if you are convinced by what you are doing then it is your right to have sex with him. I myself married man and I have sex with many women after marriage because I know what I am doing so I do not need any perspective from outside about my personal life so it is your decision what you should do in your personal life. 

answered Jul 22 by alpesh kapdi (21,135 points)
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Since your husband has hardly any interest in sex, you have no other option but to fulfill your urges with another man. But if your female friend comes to know, will she not be hurt? She will feel you both together cheated her. So if she is broadminded, go for a threesome. See that your relationship with or without her consent does not destroy their marriage
answered Jul 22 by kunjumon57 (395 points)
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'is it okay to have sex with my friend's husband' ? This question sounds more like you're deciding on whether to have it or not, whereas in reality you're already involved with friends husband since 4 months. I assume you must have talked to your husband that he doesn't give you enough time and attention and he still neglects you and doesn't care, right? And then you sought your needs outside.

Truth is.... you want this to continue, don't you ? Then why hesitate after 4 months ?
answered Jul 22 by gr8gaur (1,635 points)
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If nobody knows about ur both relationship than its completely fine
Enjoy fucking hard
answered Jul 22 by Jonika (265 points)
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Hello Kavita,

What you are doing is not right.I agree that your husband is workoholic and due to that he don't get time for sex.But that doesn't mean tthat he is not interested to have sex with you. Nowadays due to cut throat rat race,youngsters have to work very hard whole day and sometimes night also. Maybe due to tiredness of day's work he is not having that much stamina to have sex and he is choosing to go to sleep early.

Have you discussed this with your husband that he is not satisfying you as per your need ? Sit with him on holiday and discuss this topic with him. Tell him that you are still young and have very much fire of sex at this age as it is normal at this age. Tell him that you are fulfilling your desire by masturbation,watching porn and all. Convince him emotionally. I am sure he will definately look into this matter and will satisfy you. As you are doing sex with your friend's husband only on weekends then you can ask for sex with your husband at the weekend. That will fulfil your wish.

Your husband is working hard to keep you happy and you are doing all this behind him is not good. You are deceiving him.

Think on my advice and act wisely. Use your head not your lust for sex in thinking.

Best of Luck
   Raj
answered Jul 22 by Raj Handsome (890 points)
commented Jul 23 by Rhajsingh (130 points)
That's the right way to look at it.
commented Jul 25 by Raj Handsome (890 points)
Thanks Rhajsingh
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There is no harm in what have u done as long as it does not go on for too long. You need a little time for your self to take in what has happened, to think and regroup. Take time to  get over the initial hurt, and guilt. You need to think with the logical part of your brain not your heart and emotions. Take as much time as you need to get to this point.
There are many women who have gone through the experience that you have. It is a part of life. Everyone makes 'mistakes'. Remember that at the time you did it you  thought it was the right thing to do
Honestly, I think you are continuing this affair because the other guy gratifies your vanity. You enjoy the attention you get.You had an affair because you wanted to have one
Think of these -  Exposure to blackmail , Getting caught.

Life has both side love and lust . Decide upon things which is going to make your future sail smooth and safe and you will get all the bodily satisfaction you would need .

But think of your kids (if you have one ) . what if they come to know about this relationship of yours ?
what if the guy spreads rumours ?
What if your hubby finds this out ?

You have a wonderful married life which you need to secure .
You could lose it for the moment of pleasure .But Still if you wanted to go ahead .
Plan things very carefully double check the guy . Don't give him his need just like tat . make him earn it . and always have a plan B to escape in case u wanted to be safe . Just think and work out what are the pros and cons of this . If the cons weight more than the pros just come out of this as quick as possible for your healthy life

Thanks
Raj
answered Jul 22 by srajesh (1,130 points)
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I can understand your condition. Every human being have sex urges and that's not bad thing. But it's in our hands to make good choices.

There is no bad thing to have sex with your neighbor as you don't get enough sex from your husband. but have you think about this before doing it. what happens when your friend finds about your relationship with her husband. this may damage your morals, dignity etc.

so I suggest you to stop having relationship with your friends husband becoz he is  your neighbor. You need a new sex partner. so he must be not your neighbor, not your friends husband. find guys online offline. if you find someone appropriate still hesitate you can ask here again for help
answered Jul 22 by Harsh.03 (350 points)
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Why not ? Have it by all means...! But sure feels like a 'made-up question though ! :)  After all, how do you know you are the only one that persons looks at ? :D
answered Jul 22 by SunnyV (515 points)
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Yes, you have the right to have sex with anyone. And also you have to take your own decision what you should do.
answered Jul 22 by sadiajaman (195 points)
commented Jul 23 by Raj Handsome (890 points)
what about morals ?
Her husband is earning money just because his family's future will be safe and She is backstabbing him just for her own pleasure and that too for some minutes.
I pity on her husband.
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Continue mam
But be careful
answered Jul 23 by Handsomeguy162 (175 points)
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Continue as long as u enjoy Plz explain how much rough he was or did u get orgasam by rough sex its depend how much rough u like may be he get more agresive and u get in trouble to handle this so be careful..
answered Jul 23 by Tanzeel (170 points)
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If you are enjoying, then why you are asking this?
Already you have had sex, now ask your mind.

If you do not want to continue, but he is interested, he might blackmail you.
Think and proceed. If you stop here, how will you satisfy your sex hunger?
answered Jul 23 by Aksh (170 points)
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Everything  has consequences.  You are asking if it is all right to go ahead.

Rather than right or wrong, this is about the consequences.   Can you handle the situation if the affair is discovered ?  

Ultimately, you will have to make the decision yourself. If you are confused on how to proceed, the safest decision would be  to stop.
answered Jul 26 by blore.guy (205 points)
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You have not elaborated on perverted acts he does on you. Kavita as far what i feel you should be very careful in your approach as you are not the only woman the person sees. he may be into more relationships. be very careful about diseases. take adequate protection
answered Jul 27 by jaychak (105 points)

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