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I want my Wife to have a Boyfriend. Will this create problems in married Life?

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asked Aug 14 in Questions by Cukhubby (120 points)
edited Aug 14 by longhands1

Hi,

I am rohit from Delhi, age 30 and my wife is 27. We have one Kid. We are from Delhi. I am working and she is a housewife.

I have Cuckold and Femodm Fantasy. I want my wife to make a boyfriend ( he should be educated, mature and settled in Life) and go with him for movies, diner, outing etc. and have fun with him.

It took me 2 years to make my wife agree to this idea. Only after having baby, she has agreed to try this once.

Please tell me your opinion and view on this.

Is it good to enjoy this lifestyle?

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Only if you can handle the humiliation and insults that comes along as a by-product.
answered Aug 14 by gr8gaur (1,635 points)
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Hi Rohit

Do you know what is one of the fundamental things about fantasies? Most of the time they are best to be left in dreams.

You said that you took 2 years to convince your wife for this. So it is clear that this is not her thing. You sowed this into her mind. Now I see two scenarios.

1) She is still not ready for this but gave in because of relentless persuasion. She is just tired and thinks lets put a smile on face and give in to stop husband's rants.

a)So basically she will not enjoy with her bf and will spend time with him for the sake of it. Again you fail to achieve your goal because she won't have fun with him.

2) Lets say she will like his attention and will start enjoying with him. Dinner dates, Movie, one night stand, may be more than that. Again...
a) She will be emotionally attached and he want to keep it just an affair, your wife will be hurt. She might blame you for this.
b) He will be emotionally attached and your wife want to keep it just an affair, he will be pushy, might blackmail you both.
c) Both will be emotionally attached and want to spend time with each other. Your wife ask for a divorce.
d) Both will keep it like an affair and will not be emotionally attached.

As I have listed total 5 cases as per my understanding and imagination, you loose in 4 and succeeds in 1. So your failure chances are 80%. And failure will anyway lead to problem in relationship, negative impact on your  kid and sadness in family, your parents, siblings, may be close friends too.

Now ask yourself, is it really worth risking your relationship, where your failure chances are 80%?

Have you considered what if your friends/family find it out? It is not impossible..! quite possible. We don't keep secrets, obviously not when secrets are scandalous. They will ****-shame your wife. Rumours spread like wild fire. And people do take them seriously. Worst is when they are fact.
Do you really want this?

Do you really think that this will be only about you, your wife and her so called boyfriend? I fear that there are more stake holders. Shall we list them?
You kid - His wife - His kids.
Will they be affected or not? I am very sure about one thing, the impact will be very devastating. They will loose their childhood, parents, if things go bad as they are prone to be in 4 out of 5 cases.

Ask yourself, is your lust/fantsay/fetish that worth taking this risk?

You have one life. It is more important than ruining it for some fantasy when you are not sure whether you could live with that through out your life.

"Don't go for it."
answered Aug 14 by chinmay and chinmay (470 points)
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Cukhubby,
It is never easy to make a wife agree to sleep with another man. You seem to have done all the hard work and now your wife has agreed to give in to your Fantasy.  

But there are many unknowns. Like any relationship, you can never tell how the other person will react. What may look rosy in your imagination, may turn nasty later on. What if your wife falls in love with the other man? You say it cannot happen. But what if it does? What if they meet clandestinely without your knowledge?

Your child may be a bit small to understand things just now, but Uncle kissing Mama or Mama closing the room with Uncle, can leave a lasting impression on a toddlers mind.

What happens when a relative or close friend sees them coming out from the Movie hall? I know Delhi is a big place, but it is still small for prying eyes.

You will get many offers (some even from this Site). How do you ensure that the person does not suffer from STDs or even HIV.  These disease do not make a distinction between the educated and the rich. There is no way to tell. While using a condom, would help, there is always the fear that something may go wrong.

And, will your fantasy be fulfilled if your wife goes to bed with a person only once. It can never happen. You will want her to do it again and again. You have to take all these things into consideration before you decide to share your matrimonial bed with another man.
answered Aug 15 by longhands1 (68,050 points)
commented Aug 15 by chinmay and chinmay (470 points)
So apt.
Many fantasies are actually turn off in real life. People shouldn't blew their life for the sake of some fantasy.
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as long as you are fine and your wife is fine with it its good. Go ahead enjoy life you and your wife will not be able to do this once get old so enjoy life as you both are young.
answered Aug 15 by myselfarun (415 points)
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Go ahead and try this at least once so that you may fulfill your fantasies just try to discuss this with your wife that this is gonna be happen only for once after that you guys will go back to your normal life
answered Aug 15 by rockstar536 (470 points)
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If she is ready without any pressure then you both can try it but here it seems that she agreed because of your pressure so this will definitely create a problem in your married life as you are asking her to do something against her wish which you do not have a right.

However, she wants to try it once and that too after having a baby so first thing you should do is plan for the baby and see how things are going to come in front of your once you become parent. You are not alone who has this fetish so you are not abnormal but here your wife’s consent play a big role as she is the character who has to put more effort into it.
answered Aug 16 by alpesh kapdi (21,135 points)
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Dear Rohit
 You are asking that your wife should have a boyfriend & have fun with him. Ok it's sounds great, but my doubt is why you are doing this? She is your wife & you both are young & should have great fun. If you are unable to satisfy her sexually or you are importent then go for it. If not then take legal divorce & enjoy your life with other woman & let your wife enjoy her life. It will be good.
answered Aug 18 by dashing prava (370 points)
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Lucky wife. I wish my husband had the same Desire!

Well, you should go ahead if she agrees but it needs a loads of understanding as it can get you both into trouble. Like you should be sure she will never fall in love with him and it is just to enhance you sex life.

Then if your wife gets satisfied with him..you should not feel jealous of him or angry with yourself which can cause harm to your married life.

So talk to your wife on these points and carefully go ahead.

All the best.
answered Aug 21 by sharmanatasha87 (555 points)
commented Aug 21 by Cukhubby (120 points)
Thanks Natasha ..would fell good if she get satisfied ..

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