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Am I going to regret our Threesome?

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asked Oct 5 in Questions by johnconstantine (120 points)
edited Oct 6 by longhands1

Hi,

Recently, my wife and I decided to open up our marriage and spice up our life. We talked about this for weeks before deciding to go for it. She wasn't quite as cheerful about it as me though.

Anyway, the decision was made almost three months ago and the following days we thought about who to invite and how to go about it. We considered many of our friends trying to take the safe route. On the other hand if our friends were not into it, we could lose our friends and so we decided to go with strangers.

The swinger-websites we perused seemed to be fake for most part and some of them did not even respond which made us think that they were fake as well. After about a month or so, I asked my wife about our apartment security. He is an ex-soldier, around my age, well built and a pretty nice guy. I gathered some courage and talked to him and after conversing for a few days we finally got together.

This is was when my mind got troubled. My wife who was not that enthused about the situation, really got into it with him. She was wild (even more than what she usually is with me). Anyway, we occassionally got together until his recruitment agency called him back for personnel rotation. All those time she seemed much more into him. Sometimes she even flirted with him on the outside as we passed by.

Am I just being paranoid, jealous or am I going to regret this?

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you haven't mentioned your age your wife's age. also you haven't mentioned about your wife's behaviour in that time period like when you started threesome or how she flirt with him in your presence.
be more specific. this is not that much to give you suggestions.
answered Oct 5 by Harsh.03 (435 points)
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John,

I have often spoken about the downside of wife swapping and threesomes. One of the potent dangers is jealousy. Only if you can handle jealousy and the greater sex drive of your partner towards the third person, should you venture into the realms of this Lifestyle.

It is obvious from your post that you are afraid of the competition and the poaching of your preserve…your wife’s bush. You must have spent hours and days trying to convince your wife about spicing up your married sexual lives, but would have never imagined that now your wife wholeheartedly supports your idea.  

You are right about Swinger websites. Many of these are run by Prostitutes and Pimps who pretend to be husband and wife and fleece you of money, either by blackmail or extortion.

What is your wife’s reaction through the whole episode? It is clear that she enjoyed the sex and it would be possible that she would meet him behind your back. Has she shown interest in meeting other men?

You could suggest swapping with another couple, just to see her reaction. Many times, women are paranoid if their husbands have sex with other women or you could suggest you bring a woman and she watches while you have sex.

This will tell you, what your wife thinks about all this.
answered Oct 6 by longhands1 (71,355 points)
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You are jealous that is for sure and that is why I come to the conclusion that you made a mistake by going into threesome as deep down you were not ready for the threesome and got into it in hurry and you are only one to blame as your wife was not initially ready so you cannot hold her for anything.

However, the good thing is that he is not with you guys anymore as his agency asked him to go somewhere else for the duty. Another big mistake you did was that you chose the person who stayed near you guys who can meet your wife behind your back easily when you were not in the home so be careful in the future if you guys again want to find a man for a threesome act.

Your wife enjoyed the attention and a new thing in the sex life so she is happy and she was more into him becuae of the change of the penis inside her vagina which is normal amongst the people who are into threesome so there is nothing serious I would say from your wife’s side but if you are disturbed then you can talk to your wife so she can help you to feel good.

Keep in mind that threesome act is not for everyone as it needs dependability, trust, compatibility, good communication, nature of the compromise so first check all the parameters that you both posses which needs in threesome.
answered Oct 6 by alpesh kapdi (21,850 points)
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Bring another lady in your bed and let your wife feel what you are feeling right now ....

You'll definitely get better feelings as you are doing the same. You'll also feel more energetic if u get a new girl in your bed same goes with her buddy.

Remember the first time when you were making love to her weren't you more energetic? This is the same situation and please try the new women you'll feel better.
answered Oct 6 by rockstar536 (485 points)

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