Businessman reveals how he and wife spend thousands on travelling to exclusive sex parties at weekends
The black tie, masquerade gatherings are reserved for those wealthy or influential enough to pay for the privilege of exploring their darker desires
An application form is sent in the post to the prospective attendees, which needs to be returned with pic
A businessman has revealed how he and his wife spend their weekends travelling to sex parties in a debauched new 'trend' in South Wales.
Couples are travelling hundreds of miles and spending thousands of pounds to attend the exclusive raunchy dos.
The black tie, masquerade gatherings are reserved for those wealthy or influential enough to pay for the privilege of exploring their darker desires behind a cloak of anonymity.
Entry is strictly by secret ticket only.
The business leader and family man said the sex parties attracted people of influence across public and private sectors.
He said the atmosphere was one of 'sexual and social exploration', where the woman was always in control.
“These parties are attended by some high-powered people,” he added, and revealed he and his wife were among more than 200 fee-paying members from Wales.
“For the higher end clubs, you have to apply, and you have to meet certain criteria to get in, and that criteria is both physical and financial.
“For instance, are you old or young; do you have multiple body piercings; are you overweight? And it’s important because a fit guy is going to give a woman the time of her life whereas an unfit person could not. So basically, you’re not coming in, mate.
“You get an application form that you have to send in, with a picture. The picture doesn’t have to be a facial one but you may not get in without it.
“Your application takes about a week, and then you discover whether you are in or out.
“Then your party invite arrives. You get a ticket in the post, which looks like any ordinary party invite would.
Entry is strictly by secret ticket only
"But these are classy affairs, black ties for the gentlemen, dresses for the ladies, and there is always a need for a disguise, so everyone wears a mask to protect their identity, because you don’t want to bump into someone you do business with.
"That can have a very negative impact on a professional relationship.”
Parties are held regularly, using any number of different venues, mostly in London, with additional security measures to ensure identities are protected.
“The social element is very important. There is a party to enjoy and you get to meet people.
“Membership can start at around £400 per year, but climbs up to as much as £2,000. Your membership level determines the kind of access you can enjoy, from the number and type of party invites you can receive.
“You are paying for your privacy, and the exclusivity that such a private club can offer.
“The usual limit is 50 people at any one time at a hotel. A house party may involve as few as 16-20 people, and that would usually take place in a boutique guest house for a weekend.
“The venue gets taken over, new staff are brought in so there’s no chance of word getting out. It’s very exclusive.
“There are clubs which are free, and you can get all kinds of people there. If you are prepared to pay a premium, you can enjoy a considerably more classy experience.
Reportedly the woman is always - always - in control of the situation
“Take cars, for instance. If you buy an old banger, you are likely to drive and take care of it a certain way. If you buy a nice car, then it gets treated quite differently. So there are certain clubs for certain people.
“Members travel hundreds of miles to attend and meet like-minded people.
“There are three venues that I know of that can accommodate parties in Swansea. And I don’t mean knocking shops, but able to provide parties of a similar nature.
“But anything in Swansea would be far too close for us to consider.”
As for the sexual activities members can experience, couples will have their own expectations, and limitations, on what is acceptable.
“You have to talk to each other, you have to go into this with your eyes wide open.
“People may question the risks involved, but plenty of things in life come with risk. You have to assess the level of risk and what you want to achieve from it.
“Providing you talk to each other about it first, about your expectations and what you expect from someone else, then what we experience at these parties is just a transaction.
“That might sound cold, but that’s what it is.
“A girl may like another woman, for instance, and she will come over and take the woman by the hand and go and entertain each other. They may invite the husbands to watch or participate.
Couples are travelling hundreds of miles to attend the raunchy 'high-class' events
“The important point to make here is that the woman is always - always - in control of the situation.
“Some couples just like to watch. They come along simply to turn each other on, and then go home and enjoy themselves together.
“That’s not dissimilar to watching a sex show in Amsterdam, which people readily admit to but I consider very seedy.
“We are not looking for love, there’s no emotional attachment here, but you never know what you might experience.”
While conceding that some may question the impact that participation in sex parties could have on a personal relationship, the business leader said his own experience had been overwhelmingly positive.
“A couple of years ago I read an article in a Sunday magazine about sex parties; it was an interview with the woman who organised them. It grabbed my attention.
“Then I thought, ‘How the hell am I going to get this into a conversation with the wife?’.
“We have been together for more than 20 years, and are very happy. One night we just started discussing our sex life in general, we had had a few drinks, and I asked if there was anything else she would like to do. The conversation went from there.
The sex parties attract people of influence across public and private sectors
His wife said the experience had been a positive one, adding: “We have been married for roughly 20 years, have kids, a house, jobs we’re happy in, and a very active and enjoyable sex life. But we want to enjoy sexual activity with no strings, no commitment, no emotional attachment.