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Our Threesome in the past is creating problems for me. How to control my Wife?

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asked Oct 25 in Questions by rohit.sharma786 (920 points)
edited Oct 25 by longhands1

I got a job overseas. I have joined the job. The problem is that me and my wife had done 3some with a guy who is married too. We had good Sessions since last 1 year.

Both the couple know all things. But we have not done swapping. We had same room same partner sex once. But due to some issues both females are not ready to swap but ready for 3some so we paln and arrange the 3some event without knowledge of others wife.

Me and my wife and that guy had sex without the knowledge of his wife. She is also ready for 3some with me. But due to job I left my country. Now that guy is in contact with my wife personally and they are trying to hide all this from me and his wife too.

As I am abroad, I have some limitations to control them. But I know they are in contact and so feeling insecure and cheated too. Though they haven't meet yet as per her.

What should I do now to keep them apart and get back my wife. I love her so much that I can't see her cheating me.

Please suggest some good ways to control her.

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I think, best option would be,  stop worrying about your wife (having sex with u r friend) since you can't control the situation. Just njoy yourself and let her enjoy.
1st rule of this lifestyle, you should trust your partner, just don't blame her based on your assumption. Even if she is connected with your friend, whz the problem, you only started this.
Most important point, you also cheated her when you hd 3sum with your friend's wife. So why you are worrying on her cheating.
Just relax. Concentrate on your work, be good with u r wife. And njoy u r life.
answered Oct 25 by SamRin (715 points)
commented Oct 28 by rohit.sharma786 (920 points)
I haven't cheated her bro. We did 3some with my wife . Not with his wife. And I don't have problem about it. Just problem is that I dont want that they enguge  behind me secretly.
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Well, this is expected outcome from a 3some if you ask me. By going abroad you have created a void in your sex life with wife. Meanwhile you have left country with fully working setup for fulfilling sexual desire of your better half. I won't even qualify your wife's act as cheating. Imagine, if she had left country with this setup what would you have done? No human being can stop when there is hunger and there is ready to eat food right in front
. The best solution would to keep in synch and get back home at the earliest and engage with her. Good luck for early return!
answered Oct 26 by coolncute (840 points)
commented Oct 28 by rohit.sharma786 (920 points)
You are right . As before leaving home they are not much attached . But as soon as I left home. She feel lonely and that's why she get closer.
It's not possible to return back till next year as per deed of contract.
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Well, you should have had a proper detailed talk with each other in the initial days of experimenting.
Now the options have limited rays of hope to work according to you. What you can do is
Talk to her and ask her to answer you honestly and you won't be angry for that on her. Tell her that you won't get angry and feel bad if she is involved but you are feeling bed if she is lying.
Now whatever she replies you should believe on her even if she says No ( if you are pretty sure then you need to catch her redhanded) and if she says yes then you should even accept her as you were outside country and she was already deprived for sex, and she had a option to cool down her cravings.
It's just you who should accept her feeling as its not her mistake completely due to your earlier life style.
It's just she had option and she did but didn't tell you as she was scared of you.
The other option is to get apart which is a ridiculous one I think.
answered Oct 26 by sharmanatasha87 (605 points)
commented Oct 28 by rohit.sharma786 (920 points)
As per you I talked with her about it. With proof she was accepted when I sent the proofs. I said her that she want to continue then I don't have any problem but only thing is that I will be not with her any more she will go with him as her own way . She feel sorry and said that she will not keep contact with him. And  told me that  I m the responsible for all this becoz I introduce her with this lifestyle. After lots of argue ment she promised me that she will not talk with him any more.
Staying apart from all this is impossible becouse she is my wife and her any behavior is my reflect my image to society .
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Go for a personal relationship with your Friend's wife...In this way either your friend can understand the mistake while cheating you..In future your wife can not say you any wrong...

If both cases will not happen, enjoy your life with both women..Just do not feel insecure..Because you already ruined it in your own interest...
answered Oct 26 by pagela1 (135 points)
commented Oct 28 by rohit.sharma786 (920 points)
I have taken swear of my mom (who is no more ) so that I will not talk with his wife. So it's not possible to talk with his wife . And I don't want to cheat her . I just want that what ever we want we will do together . No secret in between wife and husband.
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All I can say I feel pity on people like you. What you are reaping is what you have swon.
answered Oct 26 by friskyrisky (140 points)
commented Oct 28 by rohit.sharma786 (920 points)
Bro, human is the only species who learn from his mistakes . And life teach lesson by taking experience by own. Other people's experience will not teach much .
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There is only one way and that is too take your wife with you where you live so she is with you all the time and you do not need to worry about anything and if that not possible then believe your wife otherwise your married life will be spoiled because of your insecurities. They might be meeting without your knowledge but as long as you do not have any evidence about their meeting you cannot blame your wife just because your guts are telling you so.

Moreover, this is something you should be ready for as threesome brings such complications so you have to be ready to face them before you guys choose to have threesome. He is someone who fucked your wife so many times so you should not be surprised if he fucks your wife in your absence as this is the well you both have dig with each other’s approval so do some arrangement so you can take your wife with you to get a permanent solution until that believe your wife fully that they have not met yet and will not meet in your absence and focus on your job which is a new one and needs your attention.
answered Oct 28 by alpesh kapdi (21,850 points)
commented Oct 28 by rohit.sharma786 (920 points)
Yes. Bro you told exact solution for this problem. But problem is that as per agreement I come here with individual visa and for family visa may be company will not allow me. But  I will try to get it from company but for that I have to wait for some time. As they start trusting me. And it is time consuming .
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I can suggest you something, try to play same game guve hint to your wife that you also like the wife other guy and is still having contact or phone sex with her.

See if your wife gets jealous if she does ask her to lets end all this together.
And if she do jot agree or did not bothered by your relationship wuth other woman than i am sorry to say but you already loose your wife.
answered Oct 29 by myselfarun (670 points)
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Hello Rohit,

The real problem is your jealousy. Your friend fucked your wife and in return you got nothing. May be, you are not engaged in any EMA as your wife does, so jealousy is obvious.

Do you know about open marriage and how it works?

Your wife is lonely. She needs sex and emotional support too. As you are outside the country the only option for sex is having it with your friend. If you are not okay with him, search another guy who can satisfy her.

Meanwhile you can also find a women who can have sex with you in your wife's absence. Set some limits for both of you so both of you can't suffer anymore in future.
Keep the duration of this open marriage as short as possible and try to reunite with your wife as soon possible.

I hope you understand what I'm saying, but if you have any doubts then ask us.

Wish you a good future.
answered Oct 30 by Harsh.03 (435 points)
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