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How to approach my Saali, who is a Police Officer for Sex?

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asked Nov 1 in Questions by gentleman 42x (165 points)
edited Nov 3 by longhands1

Hi,

I am Rahul, aged 42, married with a 5 year old daughter. Of late, my wife does not have interest in sex due to her gynecological problems, since she used to have lot of problems during menstruation.

She discussed this with me as her younger sister who is also married and a mother of a 3 year old kid. Now the issue is: her hubby is not s physically fit enough to have sex with her since both of them are staying apart and her hubby is doing nothing.

My Salli is a Police Inspector and she knows all about our family life. But whenever I propose something about our sex life, she says you should feel pity about her sister and manage.

I asked her how to manage and what to do? By listening to all my concerns, she keeps telling about her family life but has never allowed me to take one step ahead in these issues. Problem is, she is an honest police officer and at times asks me for financial helps, which I used to do.

She even says, not openly but indirectly that she is not getting enough sexual pleasure from her hubby.

But has never allowed me to do anything silly related to fun and sex. My wife is very strict and never allows both of us to be close.

I don't understand how to proceed and now-a-days, I am forced to have sex outside on paid basis. Please advice shat I should do to convince her for sex and fun. Indirectly, I helped her financially to the tune of few lakhs, which my wife also recommends that I should do.

My wife says you are forty plus so don't need any sex more. But am dying to fuck my Salli once, but not getting even though I paid her few lakhs by way of loan.

Please advice.

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5 Answers

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She knows your intention that you want to fuck her and she is in need of sex too but still she is not allowing you to have sex with her that means she will never allow you to have sex with her otherwise she would have spread her legs for you a long back so you should stop wasting your time after her and if you are giving her money just to get into her pants then I think you should stop doing it as that is not going to happen and you should accept it.

Your wife is unable to have sex with you so if you seek an open marriage then I do think you are in the wrong. You should not have paid sex as that is not a permanent solution but if possible then find a partner who wants to have sex with you because of the same reasons so you both can have sex with each other but you have to make sure that your family life would not get disturbed just because you need sex desperately.
answered Nov 2 by alpesh kapdi (21,850 points)
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Abstain from paid sex.You should not get terrified with your Saali,who is Police officer.Tell her that you are not getting satisfaction from her sister.Only she can rescue you.Both of you are not getting sex pleasure from respective partners.This may bring you closer.King-Queen,Rich-Poor,Father-Mother,You and I all are doing sex.Your son and my son all will do sex.Be bold,take her to movie,seduce her gradually,and go ahead slowly.She will respond you  well.
answered Nov 3 by Motilal (6,015 points)
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I think Alpesh's answer is good but there are any other ways too.

What happens to your wife? Why is she not able to have sex with you? What is her age? Are you living in joint family or living separately with wife and kids?

Does your sali live in the same city as yours? What work does her husband do? Why are they staying apart? What things your sali shared with you about her sex life? What things you shared with her about your sex life?

Does your wife know that you are fucking prostitutes? Does your salli also know this?

and last question:

Do you want to fuck your saali only one time or want long term relationship? Do you want it in return for your financial help to her?
answered Nov 3 by Harsh.03 (435 points)
commented Nov 6 by gentleman 42x (165 points)
Thank u for ur response n advice. Yes I can't keep a long time relationship with her since both families will at risk. But I do wish, I had her when she comes to my place n she often visits my place once in a year alone, without her hubby.
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'My wife says you're forty plus so you don't need sex anymore', LOL! And who is she.......  your wife or your owner ?

Its crystal clear from what you've mentioned that your wife is SELFISH. She can't keep you happy but neither wants you to take care of your happiness. She has no problem with you helping her sister financially (of course! its her sister after all) but she wants you kill that desire in you for sex.

Don't go for paid sex but look for a short term affair which takes care of your physical needs. I bet you'll find plenty of tempting options in your circle. You don't need to tell this to your wife, its her job to keep you happy and if she can't do that then try other options.

40 or 50, one should never compromise with their needs.
answered Nov 3 by gr8gaur (1,680 points)
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Rahul,

You seem to have a very helpful nature…where your SIL is concerned. First, you give her a Loan and now are worried that she is not getting enough Sex, as she is staying apart from her husband.

Did your wife tell you that her sister’s husband is doing nothing (I presume you mean in bed) and she wants you to help her Sister?

It seems from your question that you have already approached your SIL and she has given you a negative response. You will have to keep hitting the nail and hope that you will succeed at some time to open the vault or you may have to just give up. This is not only about you and your Sali. This involves your respective partners too.

From, what I gather, your wife will cut your balls, if she senses you trying to flirt with your Sali.

Your wife is immature to think that just because she has possibly reached her menopause, you to should stop having Sex. Life begins at 40. If she does not provide you sex, you are within your rights to seek it outside marriage, but do it discretely.

Now about the Loan. You can ask your Sali and her Husband to repay it back to you, as you need the money. Do not link the Loan with Sex. You did not tell her that you are giving her the Loan and to deposit it in the Bank between her legs and you will withdraw it when you need it by putting in your ATM Card.

Remember you lose Interest when you withdraw!!
answered Nov 3 by longhands1 (71,435 points)
commented 3 days ago by gentleman 42x (165 points)
Longhands,

You are very very right and this line "From, what I gather, your wife will cut your balls, if she senses you trying to flirt with your Sali." is most appropriate.

Neither the two sisters are allowing me to have sex nor my sali is openly asking for my help in bed. so still in confusion as well as to save my skin :)
commented 3 days ago by longhands1 (71,435 points)
gentleman,

Most times, it is better to have an affair outside the Family. Chances of bedding your Sali, seem dim and since your Wife thinks that your Sex days are over, you may need to look outside.

Just write off the Loan and think that you have done a good deed for the Society.
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