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How to overcome my lower sex drive during masturbation?

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asked Nov 6 in Questions by Bijaybijay (210 points)
Hi,

I am 28 years old male and unmarried. I live in Pune. Since last 1-2 months, I am having lower sex drive for masturbation.

Sometimes, I try to do sexchat on omegle but my penis won't erect properly. Why is this happening and how to handle this?

Please help.



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Bijay,

It is possible that regular masturbation could be the cause of your premature ejaculation, but this depends on how regular. Masturbating from time to time, once or twice a week, can actually have a positive effect on your sex life, but just as with any other habit, too much of it is not good. If you are the type to masturbate several times in a day, then you will certainly develop problems and premature ejaculation is one way they manifest.

I will provide you a few tips to last longer in the bedroom, and hopefully one or more of them will work out for you.

If your masturbation frequency is not on the dangerous spectrum (i.e several times a day) then touching yourself might be one way to delay orgasm. Having more orgasms when by yourself, could increase your level of self control when you are with your partner.

You can also try distracting yourself during sex. Thinking about something unattractive or even disgusting when you feel yourself getting close might help you slow down.

Another alternative is to pull out and take a breather when when you feel you are about to cum. When you do this, you can try the penis grip to kill the desire to climax. This means squeezing the head of your penis when you feel the urge to cum.

Regularly slowing down, changing positions and switching things up can help you hang in there. One perk of this is that you get to please your partner while holding on. For men to orgasm, it requires the maintenance of one move, especially when you are close. So changing the move and style from time to time will keep you from getting overexcited.

Finally, I always advise anyone with sexual problems to communicate with their partners. We need to develop the habit of opening up on sexual issues, as this is the key to making things better. So, let your lady know that the fact that you cum too early concerns you. There are things she can do to help. She can also let you know what turns her on and makes her cum. Having this information means you can do a few things to satisfy her, so even if you do cum early, you still feel confident that your lady is happy.

I know you are not married, but keep this TIP for the future when you are married.
answered Nov 6 by longhands1 (71,435 points)
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It often happens when you lost the excitement in the masturbation and that is normal so do one thing, stop masturbating and do it when you feel that your excitement intensity comes back. Once you stop masturbating in a week or two you will be fine. There is nothing wrong in you so do not worry but make sure that you do not masturbate more than 2-3 times a week.
answered Nov 7 by alpesh kapdi (21,850 points)
commented Nov 7 by Motilal (6,015 points)
You are an IT professional.It has been reported that they are gradually  becoming sexless.This is professional hazard.I think you are not getting proper erection,as it should be at your age.Rate of arousal is slow.Have you done excessive masturbation in the past? it is not clear from your feedback.Penis must be limp.Perhaps never fantasised about a women,may be cause of low sex drive.Eat balanced and healthy diet.Doctor may solve your limitations.Don't delay.
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You need to seek professional help , rather than here.

Other than that, most likely, this is related to your lifestyle.. Change your lifestyle, go out more, reduce dependence on your phone and gadgets, get involved in some sports regularly ... In short, increase your physical activityy.
answered Nov 10 by blore.guy (305 points)

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