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I am getting married next month to my Maid's sister. I have some questions. Please help.

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asked Dec 3 in Questions by Sexdick (205 points)
edited Dec 8 by longhands1

I had a relationship with my Maid and she delivered my son. (Please read my earlier Posts). She then started blackmailing me to marry her sister or else she would tell everyone about our relationship.

I started dating her Sister and found her to be a good partner for me and so we are getting married next month.

Although my maid's tantrums have reduced now, she has started having other demands. Her husband has left for Dubai leaving her and the son alone. Since then she has been living in my home. She sleeps in my room along with the child on the floor. But our love for each other was still there and we have started having sex.

My fiancee does not know about this although she knows about our past. I will be moving to another city after marriage along with my wife. But my maid also wants to come and stay with us.

My fiancee is fine with this. Would I be able to have relationship with both of them? Should I tell my fiancee about my relationship with her sister?

Also, I would like to ask: what do you think about people who have relationship with their maids? Since some people know I am marrying my maid's sister, I want to know wether people consider it as good or bad?

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Congratulations for becoming a father of the son.You have fallen in a trap,no help will solve your problems.Invite all members of AA in your marriage.You will get Himalayan Gifts.Fled away to unknown destination,settle down there.Hardly 0.05 percent people marry like you.....percentage of people enjoying Maidservants is more.I am thinking to send you a parcel of assorted variety of Condoms.
answered Dec 4 by Motilal (6,220 points)
commented Dec 6 by Sexdick (205 points)
I do not get your sarcasm
commented Dec 6 by longhands1 (73,095 points)
Sexdick, I agree with you.

Motilal thinks that he has a great sense of humour. I am aware that Users come here for solace and Advice and not to get some rotten, twisted fun, which is a shame and reflects poorly on the character of that person.

I had approved his remarks, to show how some Advisers, have nothing meaningful to say and in stead poke fun at the problems faced by our esteemed Members.   

LH
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Sexdick,

I do not know who has been guiding you in this matter. But you seem to be getting deeper into the muck.

This is what I had advised you in my last Answer " Since you have confirmed through DNA that the child is yours, you will have to give in to every demand of the maid. In your last question, you had told us that you had given some money to your maid and had stopped having sex with her". " Well, now just a little money will not do. You will have to provide for upkeep of the child till he attains majority"

Your maid has got her claws into you and she will bleed you all she can.

Taking her into your house and again having sex with her. Keeping this fact from your Fiancee (though I suspect she already knows and this is a plan worked out by both Sisters), you are heading for greater trouble ahead. If you ask me, I think even the maid's husband is in the plan.

Well, firstly tell your Fiancee the truth. You have to get her on your side if you have to rife this storm. Since some of your Friend's already know about the maid, for how long do you think you can keep this as secret? And going to a new place, will not solve matters.

You are either too innocent or to naive to think that living with 2 women will solve all your problems. The first thing is to call off the marriage (I am sure you have been having sex with the Sister too) and move away to a new place in another State or best do nothing. You are 27, another 2-3 years will help you to open your eyes wider.
answered Dec 4 by longhands1 (73,095 points)
commented Dec 6 by Sexdick (205 points)
My maid did not want any money, she just wanted me as I am her son's father.
My friends only know that she is my maid and don't know about our physical relationship. They also know that my fiancee is maid's sister and that what I feel shy about.
I have not started having sex with my fiancee.
Will it be a problem if I marry her. I have started liking her even though my maid forced me into this. What would be the consequences according to you?
commented Dec 6 by longhands1 (73,095 points)
Sexdick,

Of course, your Maid does not want your Money. She is staying with you and you are providing for her needs and your Son's needs. She has your emotional support too. She has a Husband in the Gulf, who is sending her money. What more would she want?

The problem will start when you get married. You must tell your maid's sister (your fiancee) the whole truth and do it before your marriage.

In normal circumstances, it is not a shame to marry a person who is of lower strata of Society. If you are not bothered about what others think, then you will be okay. But from your question, you seem to be worried what others will think, and so you have made plans to leave the City after marriage.

I am still not sure how you are going to let the Maid's Husband know about your Son. That is going to be tricky. Do not be like the ostrich, who buries its head in the sand and thinks it is safe from all dangers.

He may be your son, genetically, but under whose name will he enter the records? You may need to take legal opinion in this matter.

What I would suggest is you reach an agreement with the Maid, that you will provide Financial support for your son (at some stage you will have to explain these expenses to your wife), that she will not stay with you and will support your marriage to her Sister.
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Hello,

You have done a series of mistakes and you are heading to do more.

You have been too naive and impregnated your maid. You should have used protection. If it happened without plans, atleast an emergency contraceptive pill should have been used. Now you are blessed with a son in an illicit relationship with your maid. I dont know your age but im guessing either you are in your late teens or early twenties.

Don't know who gave you what advice, but marrying her sister is only going to get you into deeper trouble. No mater what it takes come out of this mess. If required tell your parents, they'll atleast handle this issue first. Being grounded for an year is way better than drowning in a pool of troubles.

Hope you think through your head instead of your dick and handle this situation properly before this situation aggravates beyond repair. Think of how this is going to affect your life.

Regards,

Sadiq.
answered Dec 4 by sadiq_khan (990 points)
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If you like your maid's sister and really want to get married to her, then you can go ahead. But also take approval from your parents, at least.

Regarding your maid, if she wants to come with you in another city, my personal opinion is that you should not take her along with you, because this may create problem in future. If you take your maid with you, then consequences may be worse.

You may get full on sex with both sisters, but in long run this concept of having two sisters will not work. And things will become worse when your maid's husband will interfere in your family life.

My suggestion is, you settle is a different country rather than city with your Wife i.e. your maid's sister. Go to some small and far country and settle there for at least 10 years, then your life may come on track.

Thanks.....
answered Dec 5 by mukul_rusty (480 points)
commented Dec 6 by Sexdick (205 points)
My parents are happy with my marriage plans. They think of her as my girlfriend first and maid's sister later.
The reason I am convinced to take her along is that she is all alone with my child. I don't want her to be lonely. If I take her along, I get to be with my son
commented 4 days ago by mukul_rusty (480 points)
If you love and want your child, then take your child from her and you with your maid's sister and child can settle in some other city.

And if you can't do this, then you tell your maid to take divorce from her hubby and marry you.

And if both the above solutions are not possible, then do whatever your maid wants.
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I had told you earlier to stay away from your maid, but you got so close to her that you started having sex with her again. I feel your maid still wants you. This only shows that you both love each other and she won’t complain about your relationship to anyone. If she wanted, she could have done that earlier.

I think you should tell your fiancee about your present situation with her sister and how you plan to take it ahead. I suspect it to be their combined plan. So be careful of these sisters. You have no choice but to take your maid and son along.

Does your maid’s husband plan on returning soon. Have you thought about when he comes to know that his wife is staying with someone else?
Does your parents know about your illict child?
answered Dec 5 by msms11 (190 points)
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You and your maid are definitely in love with each other. To get married to her sister is totally upto you.
I think you are doing a good thing by taking her along with you as you are taking the responsibility of your son. You already are like a husband to your maid. Just think about what will you do when her husband returns?
answered Dec 6 by maya75n (620 points)
commented Dec 6 by Sexdick (205 points)
Her husband is not returning anytime soon. What according to you should I do if he returns in next 6 months? Should I tell him about my relationship with his wife?
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Sexdick
1.Forget about others. Whether you have got the permission from your parents for marrying her. How do you convince your parnets that her sister will also be staying with you (for cooking?) in  a new city.

2.You have mentioned that you will be moving to another city after marraige.Is it a transfer? I assume that you are already working in a city and away from your parents.
answered Dec 6 by solliadi (1,410 points)
commented Dec 6 by Sexdick (205 points)
I have my parent's permission for marriage. I am relocating because I want to stay alone from my parents and I got a job in a less busy city. I have not told my parents about the plan to take the maid along. I assume she will come up with a good explanation.
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A case of all confusions have made things complicated with you

As i say think the way of life of freedoms if you think in your mind this way that you are full of freedoms then you get a answer automatically.

here your case ---- No one does sex 24 hours ,No one is oriented to have sex with one partner only in life, A case of child came here from your maid since she wanted one its not your wish so you should not worry.No child is born without the women's agreement ,she may have a notion at old age child will take care of her as she has a poverty in front of her as mountain before all freedoms.

If you really want to enjoy sex with maid , her sister throughout life now and then no problem here you are lucky man in mind thank your mind your luck in life to have such a miraculous success willingness from 2 women at a time .I will recommend after your marriage with maids sister ,you 3 should all sleep together to make yourself more comfortable to understand each other well not everyone is lucky as you are .tell your maid not to blackmail tell her your sister was god partner too.

Just think sex daily sex weekly fix dates time for it alternatively with maid one day with maids sister one day with both of them one day it should go without doubt think a way of freedom, freedom is only required in mind

best of luck
answered Dec 8 by Lifewithfreedoms (220 points)
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I have some doubts. If I was in your place, I would like to know the Answers to these questions before I proceed.

1) Will she be able to prove your guilt by DNA test? (I mean the money and expenditure).
Let's think, if she dares to do it and proves it.

2) She is giving birth to your child, right? Dude she is not a small girl child, that she can say he raped me or something like this. As she was giving birth to your son, society will question her like, what you had done till now? Why didn't you complaint to his mom/dad?

3) If she can't answer these questions (anyway she can't). If she answers, then she might be known to accepting of getting physical and supportive needs from you. This proves that she will be also equally punished along with you.

4) From above 1,2.3 points she can't take the risk because she has a sister and it's your maid's responsibility to arrange her marriage. Hence she can't spoil her sister's future.

5) It's really not fair to black mail you to marry her sister. I think she was planning something big for you. I advice you to avoid this marriage. Better talk with her about all these points. Lets see who will win.

Even now, ball is your court. Come on bro, don't be afraid. I am sure she too can't open her mouth because if she opens she will get double dhamaka. Her sister's life will be spoiled and her marriage also will be spoiled/ her past/ children's life will be also at stake.

Think about it.

Act wisely.

Thanking you
Coolcracker.
answered 6 days ago by Coolcracker420 (705 points)
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