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How to cope with this Online friend (girl) who has kinky fantasies?

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asked Jan 10 in Questions by Beauty Hunter (210 points)
edited 6 days ago by longhands1

Hello AA and Team,

First of all, I am a silent Memberr of this site for a year. A big "Bow" to Anjali and Team and its Members as this is the No.1 site till date.

Now, coming to my problem:

Some days back, I found a girl on an Adult Site. We both have a good time and we chat regularly for hours non stop. I love to chat and have Sex. By knowing my past sexual experiences, she got more close to me. I came to know more about her.

She is living next to my city. After chatting with her, I was able to bring out her buried fantasies, which were daring and kinky. She told me that she had not got a partner who can fulfill her fanctasies and satisfy her. She kept tellin me that she can't live without talking to me and she wants to be my slave. She also said that I could charge her for all the sexual activites. Something like a financial domination.

After 4-5 days, she deactivated her account without telling me anything. I was totally pissed off. But after 5 days, she again messaged me and said that she had some family issues and that is why she had done that. Now, again we are on our sexual roller coaster ride.

But yesterday she didnt talk to me the full day and said she is very busy in her job, and will be busy for 2-3 days. I said ok, but yesterday again she deactivated her acoount. Now, I am in a huge dilemma, what to do? She said that we will meet in Feb in her city. Frankly, I dont trust this virtual internet world, until I see with my naked eye and meet her personally. To know her reality the only option is to wait till Feb and meet her.

Now, please suggest what I should? Now and later.

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February is not far so wait and see how it goes. If she makes new excuses not to meet you then, then I think you should cut her off and need to focus on your life and career without wasting your time after her. Be careful so she cannot take any kind of advantages of you. You can be close to her yet far and be smart so if she tries to trap you down then she will not get succeed there. Most of the time these kind people are fake and doing things for their malign intention.
answered Jan 11 by alpesh kapdi (22,640 points)
commented 2 days ago by Beauty Hunter (210 points)
Thnx Alpesh for your kind suggestion
yup, if she give any single excuse i will not going to take this further anymore. i will keep you suggestion in my mind
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Wait for some more time and do not depend on 1 girl only. Try to find more girls from that website so that it will increase the chances of you getting laid.
 
Which website it is?
answered Jan 12 by rockstar536 (580 points)
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Dating through adult sites is not safe. There are risk of blackmailing and even being deceived by hookers. It will be wise to get away from her and find a girl through your friends and family members/relatives.
answered Jan 12 by zena69 (1,755 points)
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Beauty Hunter,

Did you chat with your online friend or talk with her?  In other words, are you sure that you had chat with a girl or a boy with girl's name.

You can tell us the name of the adult site. I do not think, we can find a genuine girl / women wasting her time on adult sites. FB contacts are all together different.

You may verify about her genuineness in Feb anyway.
answered Jan 12 by solliadi (1,725 points)
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dear friend,
                   i suggest you to be careful.since you dnt know her personally,better think twice before you take another step.i have some questions posted by users which says their experiences about facing problems in the cases similar to you.even there is a wrong with respect to the girl, but you might be blamed in public. as you both are already in state to know each other, i suggest you to wait until feb.better to arrange the meeting in the place which is favourable to you.we also cant say why she deactivated account.ask her to send her pics and come for video chat.you better record the calls and keep it safely in mail and save the chat in your mail too.they might save you,if she tries to loot in public.

if she doesnt agree to send her pics or video calls.then leave her.as she is not only woman on earth .in case if she leaves you suddenly ,better concentrate on your work.dnt spoil your time.we cant know everything about a person through chatting, whatever depth you might be in with her.
 
hope this helps.

thanking you
coolcracker.
answered 6 days ago by Coolcracker420 (860 points)
commented 2 days ago by Beauty Hunter (210 points)
thnx buddy for your suggestion
she had send me some of her pics with half of her face, frankly saying i dnt even fully trusted that the pics are of her for sure as i already said i never trust this virtual world untill i see by my naked eyes but i am just waiting for her come back( doubtful) then surely i will get a video chat with her if she deny or make any excuse the chat nd everything will be over on that exact second.
commented 1 day ago by Coolcracker420 (860 points)
Ok.its better like you said.always be safe.whatever you do, think twice and do it.
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Do not ever think of meeting her or continuing this weird telephonic relationship. It is one of the ways to trap youngsters and laer extort money through blackmail. This is what is called a honey trap. Her switching on and off her account is only to make you want her more and more so that you get involved with her emotionally. Be very careful..........
answered 5 days ago by pklalgarh (150 points)
commented 2 days ago by Beauty Hunter (210 points)
thx for you suggestion
i am mature enough to not get in if its a honey trap, its jus a good relationship thats all i am not emotionally attached with her.
i will keep your suggestion in my mind
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1. First be clear in your head whether you want to get physical or not. R u interested in actually having real sex or not ?

2. I have also met women online on social networking sites and we enjoy sharing kinky stuff / doing sex chat but have so far kept it limited to being online. We never share our real identities. In case you are enjoying the online friendship then you can keep having online fun. At max do video without face etc.

3. In case you are interested in meeting then try meet her in a cafe or in a public place. you can ask her to reach there and just observe her discreetly from a distance to see if she is having secret accomplices also to keep a watch on you. avoid meeting her at home / hotels.

4. if you meet and like her then having sex or not is mutual understanding.

5. she keeps deactivating her account and it shows her fickle mindedness. so i think she is undecided about this affair and maybe is trying to stop it unsuccessfully by deactivating it for few days.
answered 2 days ago by Vikki G (220 points)

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