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Should I Keep Physical Relationship with My Sister's Daughter ?

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asked Aug 16, 2011 in Questions by everysilent (150 points)
edited Aug 16, 2011 by Anjali

Dear Anjali aunty and friends, 
 
I don’t know what to do. I am in very trouble situation; couldn’t able to take decision. What to do. 
 
Its all about myself and my niece. I am 26 years male. My niece is 19 years (My Sister Daughter). We are very good friends, we like to share almost everything to each other. We love each other very much.  Since last 2 years , we are so much connected. 
 
In One Night, “ I ask her to whom you love the most ?, “ she replied “ You “. I asked her, “ why “ . then she replied, “you are so caring to me, talk very nicely with me and my relatives, I like your behavior etc……I Replied “ Really” . she said “ yes “ .  then I asked her, “ can I take kiss of your cheeks and lips ? she allow to me for doing so. After that night, we are so connected with each other, talk , share almost every things  of our life. And whenever we got chance we are doing foreplay kissing , boobing, fingering etc. In Two occasion we are almost in the start process of intercourse, but that time I feel so much guilt on my act,  I thought its wrong and I have stopped the act. 
 
One day I came to know one thing from her, a thing which she hides from me. ( The thing is that one of her works colleague  ( A senior Citizen) ask for marriage for his relative ( for Senior Citizen Relatives) Very lately she have inform me  about this thing , that’s why I am getting very sad. Hence I not talk with her for 3 days. After that whenever I am trying to talk with her, but she avoids me. Later, I asked her, “why are you avoiding me ?, she said no, I am not avoiding you. I said. I asked her about that thing, why you not share with me this thing ? then she replied that , I  was not serious about this thing at that time, that’s why I didn’t tell you. I said Ok.  
 
After 2-3 days , while our talking , I came to know from her that one of the boy had proposed her for marriage. Then I asked her what was your reply ? she said, “ I cant tell you (means that boy ) now, you will have to wait for almost 4-5 years, because I have to manage and have to do some household responsibilities . That boy is ready for waiting for 4-5 years and even I want to do marriage with him also “.  
 
Then I asked her, when that boy proposed you? She said,” one month back “. I replied, “ how could you take very important decision about your life in just one month, is just your attraction , nothing else. The another girls of your work has boyfriend, thats why you are also feeling for having boyfriend. You not to involve so deeply with him till you know him very well “.  Then she said, “ he is very good boy, loyal, decent, he does not have any bad habits and he doesn’t mix up with girls and some responsibilities on his shoulder, which he will complete.  I want to do marriage with him because the expectation of mine are fulfilling in that boy. 
 
After that i said to her, I will do all help to you about marriage with that boy. i will collect all the information about his ( That boy ) behavior, character; but till then you keep a normal friendship with him and  you don’t do a thing which he (that boy ) can understand that you are so much concerned with him. And he can take your advantage and can cheat with you. And I giving too much importance to tell her that, “ You don’t allow him to touch you until marriage, then she said , “ don’t worry, I understand my responsibility. 
 
From that day I am so much tense about her relationship with that boy and me. Because whenever I message her, “ I Love You, then she immediately reply with “ I love you too “. 
 
Now on one side, I am getting tense that if that boy cheat, sexually connected with her or left her , then very big problem will have to face to my niece. And other side I am assuming that because of my that act and consequences of my that act, she behave or think like that. And I am very depressed that what to do now.  Now also we are so much connected that, if I asked her to give kiss, she smile and give me and if, I message her, “ I Love You, and Miss you “  then she immediately reply with “ I love you & miss you too “.  Because of this I felt that, should I complete my balance act with her or should I forgive and let her go with her life. 
 
Please Anjali aunty and readers reply – what to do now?

commented Aug 16, 2011 by oye (25,670 points)
edited Mar 30, 2014 by oye
I read twice, I still cant figure out what is your problem. You are in love with someone you shouldnot. And you are interfering on her personal life, choice, willingness. just because you love her and she loves you doesnot change the fact she is your niece.
Which company gives a 19 year old a nice job and marriage proposal?  Whatever it is, I suggest, wake up, drink coffee and do what you are supposed to do.  There is no future in this relationship, you two will be thrown out from the family, why act stupid?
Feeling pity for your sister to have a brother like you and given birth to a daughter like her. Having sick family members like these, she doesnot need enemies.
commented Aug 17, 2011 by everysilent (150 points)
edited Aug 17, 2011 by everysilent
Sir Oye....
I Like and appreciate your answer. i want to clarify that the...
She is working in company. and company not giving marriage proposal. one of the boy of working same company, asked her for marriage.

and i know even she also know there is no future relationship among us;
but the things she talk with me, i could,nt decide what to do.

Twice she allowed me to touch & do intercourse.......but that time feeling its wrong....i stop that.....should i confess with her for doing so....or with her permission should i do intercourse with her.



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yes u should keep relation with ur sister bcoz if u dont do dat thig 2 her she my be disapointed..2wards u nd find some 1 else ..so it is good 2 u fuck ur sister than any 1 else.
answered Aug 16, 2011 by rj das (125 points)
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Just imagine can you give this girl a happy married life with pressures from society and being outcasted.

Let her checkout other guys too. Be by her side , enjoy her but when she wants to make a decision font pressurise her but support her
answered Aug 16, 2011 by mr.xx (310 points)
commented Aug 17, 2011 by everysilent (150 points)
moved Feb 20, 2014 by longhands1
Anjali Aunty ...I am Looking for your answer. I am expecting the answer from that Guy have replied ... ( Mr. Oye......) and i am waiting your reply for taking right decision.

Thank You
commented Aug 17, 2011 by oye (25,670 points)
edited Feb 1, 2014 by longhands1
Bro, you dont need to re explain, I understood what you meant on your question. The reason I said I dont understand your problem is an expression. When people know right from wrong, knows its wrong when does wrong, he or she is a sane person. You arenot confused till now, why want to be confused?
Your intention of having consenting fuck, you know thats wrong, then why complicate your lives with wrong move? Havn't you hugged anyone, do you feel sexed up when you do? It was wrong to touch her boobs, was wrong to write explicit message, and you know that. Very good.
She responded positively that was her mistake, but taking that silence as proceed to take next step, that is very bad.
Till now not much of a damage happened, correct your mistake, such as get right guy for her. And dont wish for a relationship which causes happyness for you alone but more pain for everyone else.
People makes mistake, machine doesnt. You are a wholesome person, dont feel ashamed or suffer on own. But its time to move on with life on your own. Life is large and good, dont make it complicated for moments of pleasure.


2nd Answer
commented Aug 17, 2011 by everysilent (150 points)
Thank You......Sir Oye....
commented Aug 17, 2011 by oye (25,670 points)
You are welcome bro. Oye means Hi in spanish. Call me just Oye. Please dont call Sir Oye, because Queen Elizabeth II hasnt nominated me with knighthood yet.
commented Aug 17, 2011 by everysilent (150 points)
moved Feb 20, 2014 by longhands1
Alright Bro.....
just inform me when you got the nomination. don,t forget.
commented Aug 28, 2011 by protestor (525 points)
Good Joke oye......
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you have a mixed feelings with your neece thats is not very good let her live her life and you should move on to another women..and share your feelings with her..
answered Aug 19, 2011 by ivar143 (240 points)
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Hey if u r so desperate fr her than u may indulge in a relationship or fuck but let her to choose her own partner fr life at that tym u just support her...
answered Aug 27, 2011 by Tina (140 points)
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Mr. Eversilent, I think you have developed a kind of weakness which is more a sexual attraction than love for your sister's daughter who is younger to you by 7 years.
Solution No. 1 : I do not know if you belong to South India where marriage with sister's daughter is permitted and accepted by the society. If it is so, and if she too accepts you as her husband under this tradition, both of you may approach your parents to permit your wed-lock.
Solution No. 2 : If you sincerely assess that she is inclined towards her boy friend, you just leave the idea of behaving with her as her boy friend or senior friend or likely husband. You should rather behave as a responsible guardian to protect her from an unfit match through proper & genuine elderly guidance to her. Do not go on her childish remarks that she loves the boy friend as much as to you. You should totally drop the idea of interim sex with her. You are at a marriageable age. Have sex with your life partner which I hope you will be getting soon. I am sure, as a natural instinct, you will develop a deep love with one who is about to join you as a wife, and who knows she appears to be much more lovely than your sister’s daughter.
answered Aug 28, 2011 by dr-deepika27 (1,740 points)
commented Aug 28, 2011 by protestor (525 points)
Well answering Deepika.......
good going.
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You should fuck her till her marriage I am saying so because you made her active in sexual activities she will try with her b.f. If you don't do, and tell her not to tell anyone about this relationship because girls when get emotional divulge sexual secrets to their partners. And ofcourse you have to search a good life partner for her, in this case 5 years are long enough to mature her. Till than ask her to be cautious towards that boy.
answered Sep 3, 2011 by rahulsngh (690 points)
commented Sep 6, 2011 by manish.naran (3,375 points)
moved Feb 1, 2014 by longhands1
dear friend
nice to read even though it is lie.
commented Oct 28, 2011 by surya_surya (345 points)
moved Feb 20, 2014 by longhands1
just enjoy her atleast once. go with her decessions. be casual abt her decision. dnt b nervous.

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