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How to convince my wife to be active in sex and do threesome and oral?

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asked Nov 6, 2012 in Questions by aditisharma333 (120 points)
closed Dec 20, 2012 by Invincible

We are a newly married couple. My wife is conservative but I am active. She never does or enjoys sex. She has never done oral sex. So I want to convince her to be active in sex, in oral sex and do threesome.

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commented Nov 7, 2012 by longhands1 (64,215 points)

aditisharma,

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commented Mar 18, 2016 by ajit45448 (120 points)
Hi. I am also trying to convince my wife for a threesome. We can have a chat in this matter. Send me a PM.



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Now where that comes from? How old are you and she is?

Have you ever tried knowing why she is not active on sex? Rather than looking at your wife if she is having any psychological issue or physical reason, as she is not active, you, being a newly wed man want her to get a blowjob and get on a threesome? What kind of threesome MMF or MFF? Whatever that is, all I have to do is, you are a sex craving *** who think about your own release your own fantasy and pleasure.

These type of guys are really fool and selfish. Fool as they dont want to know the reason, selfish cause all they think is themselves.

I dont want to suggest you on what you are looking for, either consult a couple advisor on sex issue, or you should consult a psychologist for your own reason.  Damn it man, its your newly wed wife, not a prostitute that you bought and want to make money using her asap. Try to build up the relationship in right level first.

I think you are watching too much porno, reduce your habit and try to feel your wife as your life partner, not a sextoy.
answered Nov 6, 2012 by oye (25,670 points)
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aditisharma,

You have already heard the harsh words from Oye, and I agree. You are a newly married couple. Do you know what the institution of marriage is about? Or do you think, its some sort of game? Rather than putting the blame on your wife by calling her conservative, what have you done to make her feel welcome into her new home? If she does not enjoy sex, you are to blame for that. What efforts have you made to educate her that sex is enjoyable, besides trying to ram your cock into her mouth.

Most women do not take to oral sex easily, as they have been brought up to believe that the sex organs are dirty. That reminds me, have you performed cunnilingus on her? 

Please get this fancy idea of threesome out of your head. If you are so keen to try it, do visit a prostitute and bear the consequences. Please keep your innocent wife out of it.  

answered Nov 7, 2012 by longhands1 (64,215 points)
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I'm not surprised if she's not active in sex. You're only married for five minutes and already wanting three somes? If you begin your relationship in this manner, and as you say, she's from a conservative background, I imagine she's shocked and hurt to discover that she's not enough for you. And you wonder why she doesn't enjoy sex?

When you say you want oral, I assume you mean you want her to suck your cock; but are you giving oral to her? This thing is a two way street, don't expect to get but not give.

You better get a bit realistic about your marriage, and god knows what damage you've done to her confidence and self esteem in the short time you've been with her. She's not some unfeeling sex toy for your manipulation, so try to treat her like someone you actually care about, rather than a piece of meat.

Salma.
answered Nov 7, 2012 by sexysalma (14,920 points)
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Dude.. She is your wife.. Don't see her as an object of sex.. I guess the above comments said whatever I feel to say.. But I just want to add one thing.. U R a desperate animal who just wants to bury ur bone somewhere.. Try understand ur wife or leave her before she loves U deeply.. Atleast her life ll be saved.. U can marry a nymphomaniac after that and fulfil all your fantasies..
answered Nov 8, 2012 by hades (2,670 points)
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Newly married and need a third person to bang your wife. You says you are modern and active in sex what you mean by this? Did you mean modern  or active because you want it every day and need oral or anal sex or is it because you are banging other girls also? Your wife is not modern or active or dont want to give oral never means she is not active or not capable of enjoying good sex.

If you married her for oral sex or threesome or foursome you might have married a whore and you may have earned some  money from persons coming for threesome.

If you married one for company love, care and sex then show some patience she will definitely give you what ever you needs but threesome may not. but dont come here in few yrs down with the question my wife is too active in sex but i am having an ED or PE and she is asking for a threesome.
answered Nov 8, 2012 by pussycat (3,855 points)
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The initial part is good and quite common while the latter part is common but not this early. You are newly married and want to experience threesome? Have you given it a thought before your marriage to your wife? Do you think she will be okay with this idea? She is so new that she is still shy to talk sex with you and expecting threesome at this point is suicidal, that doesn’t mean you should at some other time.

Being non-conservative/modern doesn’t mean giving consent to threesome or group sex the very next day of marriage. Drop your idea of group sex. At least drop her taking the part in your fantasy. She as much fears sex and is shy to expose herself to her husband while you are conceiving plans to make her ready for group sex. Weird man!! If you had this idea have you talked to her in private? If you haven’t made that call, don’t as much as dare to utter a single word.

Well you can do that if you want her moving out the next second you present her your idea.

On the part where you want to make her feel relaxed with sex, give her some time. Let her get accustomed to you and her position as wife. Comfort her and don’t pester her for sex and don’t think that she is merely a sex object after your marriage. She is as much as a human as you are and she is entitled to her life.

BTW, what is your idea of threesome, MMF or FMF? I’m sure you are the latter category lover. What if you present this idea and she interprets it as the former? What do you have to say then? Worth a think!! Whatever you do don’t spoil her dream of life with you. She must have come with a lot of expectations and don’t frighten her.

answered Nov 8, 2012 by Invincible (12,550 points)
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First u assure her by your own acts that  you love her the most! and there is no one on the earth who can make u happy other than her!

Sex is never a mere physical act and when u will arouse her mentally too to enjoy sex  as it's a fun then only she will be agree to do whatever u want to make u happy and satisfied getting her pleasure too in those all acts including threesome
answered Dec 2, 2012 by The Teaser (120 points)
commented Dec 20, 2012 by romantic4lust (105 points)
edited Dec 20, 2012 by Invincible

It is her decision to have other partners or not.  You can make her seduce by showing some stories or videos.  Until unless she dont have any interest, dont spoil your value in her mind by asking for these

 

(Answer to old posts, hence converting.)

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