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I am 30 year old married lady from Kerala, need help please.

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asked May 1, 2013 in Questions by Saritha Santhosh (120 points)
closed May 28, 2013 by Invincible
I was married 8 years before, I am working in a private company. My husband is working abroad.

For the last 2 years, I am having an extra marital affair with my boss. He is a middle aged widower, but can give me much pleasure  than my husband. And two times I helped him to get business deals by having sex with his clients. I was taking protection regularly, I didn't allowed them to have fun with out condom .

Now these days I become more addicted to sex, I feel to have more than one guy at a time.

I need your advice in it, I need to know that having sex with more than one man will make any problems and having sex for getting business deals whether is good? ( I am interested to have sex with them)

Expecting your answer, Saritha
closed with the note: Old enough to close, doesn't need new answers.
commented May 2, 2013 by Invincible (12,575 points)

Saritha,

Your post has garnered 1445 views in less than a day, it has got 13 answeres which actually can be called a record and now I'm beginning to wonder if this post is authentic since I'm yet to see any kind of response from you for all the answers you got.

If your intention was to fool us by a juicy story line, let me tell you you have succeeded in doing that, but remember we are no fools to get duped by questioners who select juicy story lines as their questions. Its time you respond to the answers you got.

Editor.

commented May 4, 2013 by Saritha Santhosh (120 points)
Sir,
      I was don't know to it need to give replys to everybody that are commented on my question. And I am sorry that you feel that it is just a sorry. Could you please tell me how to delete this question?
                    Thank you
commented May 4, 2013 by Invincible (12,575 points)

Saritha,

If a questioner posts a lengthy question with a juicy concept and is no where to be seen, I would assume it to be a story. Moreover you’re answerable to all the answers you have received. Thats the minimum you could do to keep the answerers informed of your plight. Now that you’ve come back, I suggest you take time in replying to every answer and keep them posted.

And no you needn’t delete your post.

Editor.

commented May 28, 2013 by sharpcurve (790 points)
moved May 28, 2013 by Invincible
Sarita,
U tell u like extra marital affair and ur hubby is in abroad. Very convenient! Also u become a nympho. Then don't ask suggestion or answers. U enjoy as u like. We give moral teaching and now u are not a position to listen or correct urself. So enjoy but be sure of protection. Thats all Sarita. If I were there I will also try to enjoy u!  ( This is what I felt reading ur question)
commented Jun 2, 2013 by play boy raja (100 points)
afair is bad one plz don't again do it.....
commented Jul 28, 2013 by gowd (100 points)
don't do like this, try to avoid this by controlling the desires. These are unhealthy and gives short term happiness.
commented Aug 10, 2013 by bipin860 (120 points)
hai madam, me too from kerala , i want  to point something to u, i am not mature enough to make you judge, but sex with multiples not good , how can u trust the "boss clinte" chance for spreading infection and think about your future, if u addicted to sex, just stay in touch with your boss or someone full fill your desire,
you are mature enough, think about the condition in which your husband get know everything? , think about the culture you are from,
now adays hard to hide single relationships, and you are trying multiple person,
you have full freedom for anything, but think about your future, sex not life, its just part of it



15 Answers

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What you're doing is a form of prostitution; so if you're happy with this, go ahead, with the proper protection. Also, you can get fucked by as many men as you can handle if it pleases you, again, make sure they're wearing condoms.

If you get it right, you can take three men at once, one orally, one in your vagina, and one in your anus. I think that if you choose the right guys, you can be given pleasure for most of the night, until your holes are sore!!!!!

This kind of behaviour would need to be very carefully concealled, or you would be known to all and sundry as a ****. Your husband would soon know about it, and I imagine that would have dire consequences for you. But I guess you don't give a shit for your marriage or your husband, given what you want to get up to.

There are no problems from a health point of view, as long as your multiplicity of partners all wear condoms; but I'd suggesy you get yourself checked out for STIs before beginning your marathon sex sessions.

Salma.
answered May 1, 2013 by sexysalma (14,920 points)
commented May 1, 2013 by amit.agistr (115 points)
i appreciate u r answer...!!! I'm becomin huge fan of u...!!!
commented May 6, 2013 by anilanil (100 points)
true and mature answer.
keep it madam.
with regds.
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Dear,

The style of life, you are leading ends at the the frustration, defame, grief and broken marriage.
You are going to be a ****. You aren't getting business due to quality of your product but due to your vagina. People are playing with you, your.body and yours own future n present.
Don't be a ****. Concentrate yourself in improving quality of your work not polishing your vagina.
Your age is good and you can.change yourself easily.
answered May 1, 2013 by basicinstinct (2,290 points)
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Technically you should be called a whore, but then again since you don’t actually charge these men for using your body, you can be termed a *****, an insatiable one perhaps.

As long as you have protected sex with any number of men, you wouldn’t get into any trouble, but you’ll have to restrict yourself from engaging in oral sex, kissing and smooching, as oral sex has a highest probability of transmitting STD’s/STI’s and exchanging kisses can often result in the transmission if there happens to be a cut or a wound on the tongue, so going for t with a complete stranger isn’t advised.

Moving on to your next query which revolves around the question of whether it is good or not to have sex for the purpose of business; unless you get something out of it, say money, expensive jewellery, cosmetics etc......it isn’t good to go for sex. Now, I wouldn’t take the pain of educating you on marriage morals and staying loyal for your husband and all that crap, because for you, you’ve stopped thinking about your useless husband right at the moment you had stepped into an affair.

Usually guys dig at marrying virgin girls as they think they are very innocent, possess a good character, etc........ but not a single guy thinks about the hidden **** in these girls. I‘m pretty sure you were a naive, innocent virgin bride at the time of your marriage, but now you’ve turned into this insatiable whore/*****.

So, have sex by demanding money from your clients, why do you want to lose money at something which you’re good at? As for your marriage, I’m sure you would project the image of a loyal and obedient wife for your husband, that idiot wouldn’t know his wife is a ****.

answered May 1, 2013 by Invincible (12,575 points)
commented May 1, 2013 by amit.agistr (115 points)
When u r gud at sumthng,nevr do dat 4 free...!!!
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Dear sarita,

Currently you had made sexual relation with only two different client for getting business deal with protection but in future it may pe possible that client will offer you good deal if you go sex with them without protection then you can't say no as your job will be in trouble.

And you are equal to a prostitute they charge money and you do sex to get business deal.
In future you have to lose the job after few years as your boss will hire some young and sexy girl who can satisfy his client more then you.
Stop all this or you may get in trouble one day control your feelings for sex. By masturbation you can satisfy your self.

What will be the future of your children as one day your husband and well-wishers will come to know about your prostitution at that time no one will support you.
answered May 1, 2013 by neeraj123 (1,555 points)
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Hi sarita you enjoy your sex life good but its your fantasy to have one or more and one more thing you are already married but be care full about affair it ruin ur life and having sex and getting buisness ,,is not good your boss is making you pros ..be gentle bee faithfull for ur husband.......
reply me..
answered May 1, 2013 by naidu362 (400 points)
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well if you worried about your physical health , then with proper protection you will be fine , you can take more than one man , however having more than one sexual partner and that too changing sexual partners at random i:e different men every time is always a risk so i would suggest get yourself checked every 2 months , or you can put yourself and your husband in danger.
as far as moral decision goes you have already crossed the limits , and the saddest part of all this is the only person who is going to be punished in all this is someone who is not at fault your husband. What you doing is prostitution ,so you decide whether its good or bad, i wont even tell you to stop because it doesn't matter now you have already destroyed your married life its as it is a sham , so i guess you can have your fun , but please if there is even a little bit of humanity in you leave your husband so that he can move on and find someone better than you.
answered May 1, 2013 by parik89 (2,190 points)
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You are a **** who is going to become an insatiable nymphomaniac whore soon!sorry for the blunt words i am using but after reading your question that is what  the picture  is created in front of my eyes i can not help! As it is not uncommon or unnatural for a young lady to indulge in some affair while her husband is away and not able to perform his manly duties However also to have sex with his clients and above that you want to be get fucked by multiple partners at the same time it clearly indicates that you are nympho!
Though being an adult you have every right to do as per your will ! Regarding precautions you are already insisting them to use condoms that is very good But remember never give in to fuck without condom for whatever money you would be offered as most  men always want it bareback ! And also take precaution that nobody should know this slutty whoreish side of yours ! and fuck as many men either one by one or at a time to yours hearts content But remember never do anything under pressure of your lover cum boss! and also always be alert that you are not being videotaped or recorded so they could blackmail you in future!
answered May 1, 2013 by prashant69 (6,690 points)
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having sex with any one or with many others separately or in group is no problem it all has to do only with enjoying. But if you are having sex with any one for the purpose other than enjoyment i feel is wrong. God have blessed we human being with the fun of sex to enjoy not to take any advantages from any one with this.
answered May 1, 2013 by priyasharma (105 points)
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Lady you're on right track. Well you will compromise to get the things her. Lethal weapon you are. You are on the verge to become professional corporate "RANDI". With boss its ok but with his clients now come on what you think you are doing. Why don't you use your skills to clinch deals. As womens belongs to vulnerable sex but on the contrary when it comes to corporate they are climbing ladders faster than men. Even with clients Sshhh...
answered May 1, 2013 by xpktv2000 (3,295 points)
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Sorry folks but i do not agree with you guys calling her *****, ****, whore etc. i guess we are here to advice not judge people. As for saritha its your life n u know ur needs best. I would say that like every coin has two sides. Every choice has two consequences, every mature person knows this flip-flops n then decides. As far as i would go n step in ur shoes, i would have not gone beyond the ema.
answered May 1, 2013 by maxxx (270 points)
commented May 1, 2013 by amit.agistr (115 points)
she knew when she was doin it...!!! dats d reason y ppl r judgin her....!!! wat u said is ri8....!!! we  shudn't judge her...!! v shud help her...!!!
commented May 1, 2013 by xpktv2000 (3,295 points)
well man! the way you had answered this question is absolutely a way lost type.....yeah its like you were trying to peek here and there and gave her a response of no ends..good
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Having sex vth more dan 1 person is nt a problem...!! as long as ders protection u can continue it.....!!! Seems lyk ur  professional wen it comes 2 d terms of u r businees....!!! if u r njoyin dat u can continue...bt b careful 2 conceal dat....!!! if still u r moral values r hurtin u (i'm sure dey will b tellin dat itz wrong),u bttr get off dis relationshp...!!! As u said u r liking it...u can go ahead....!!! ITZ U r lyf...u decide wat u want 2 do...!!!
answered May 1, 2013 by amit.agistr (115 points)
commented May 1, 2013 by Invincible (12,575 points)

Do not use the SMS language; we do not have a limit on the number of words, so use full words, because if you don't your answers would be converted into comments which give you no points for the work you put in.

Editor.

commented May 1, 2013 by amit.agistr (115 points)
okay dude....!!! I didn't know that...!!!
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Your life is already complicated, you have made that more complicated, and what you are asking for is how to make it more complicated. I wish you would ask something like how to curb your desire down. But seems no luck for now.

Just look back and see where are you. You are a married woman who has natural desire. You fulfill that by your boss, till that point it was okay and seems no monetary involvement. But when you used your body to get a business, you stoop yourself down on the prostitutes level. The guy would have engaged someother girl to get the deal and spend money, your probable not taking doesnot glorify you, rather you acted as a free call girl.

Now instead of mending your status, you are looking for moresome. Seriously, do you believe in the marriage system where one man marries one woman? Marriage is not all about sex and satisfaction, its about two people stay together on good time and bad time, grow old together.  Your hsband is a money greedy man who is ready to leave behind his wife just to earn money. And what is he paying for that to earn? A horny wife who is on the way of becoming a free ****.

If you havenot looked at yourself till now, try to look again. Do you really want to stay married to that fool who is burning his ass out? Having sex with more than one wont cause any problem if they are using protection, but sex crave has a tedency to go upward, when you get habituated with two men and your husband is back, how would you pretend to be the great wife? You sure will go for exploration, which might again ends dry.  Other name you are going to earn is as the free **** available for all. Using yourself for business, you are just providing service for free. Start charging from now.

I am not sure if my logic will touch you anyway, I feel its time to look back at your marriage and ty to give a serious thought whether you need to be falsely committed in paper or get rid of moral and legal obligation. For you the best option would be now to get a divorce and get married to this boss. I can assure you, if he gets married to you out of love, he wont let you sleep with customers for business. If he doess, then he is another greedy man ready to sell anything for money. The same thing your husband is also doing another way. 

answered May 1, 2013 by oye (25,670 points)
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According to me, having sex with other person is cheating with your husband. Every person has 2 sides in mind, its upto us which side we have to choose. Good side is difficult to choose but effects very positively. Sexual erge is natural but you have to control it by yourself. I suggest you that you have to divert your mind from sex to other things. You can skip the job also if you can. But remember that you cant give up until your best day come.
answered May 1, 2013 by gdrao_kor (130 points)
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Dear Saritha,

Click the link below to hear my answer

Luv,
Anjali
answered May 2, 2013 by Anjali (7,465 points)
commented Jun 23, 2013 by sharpcurve (790 points)
Wow! What a beautiful polite answer jeweled with nice advice!
commented Feb 9, 2014 by enchantersabeel (155 points)
Perfect answer....Sarita Ji plz follow...
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i think you better try to change your mentality. if you wish to get pleasure at a time with more man it may hamper you as well as your family. just let it be as usual as earlier for your good
answered May 16, 2013 by bangladesi bhai (105 points)
commented May 16, 2013 by superstar (125 points)
moved May 16, 2013 by prashant69
Divorce your husband and live like a whore.
commented May 16, 2013 by neeraj123 (1,555 points)
reshown May 17, 2013 by Invincible
Please don't answer more than 10 days  old question as its just a waste of time.the person never come to check old questions.
commented May 16, 2013 by neeraj123 (1,555 points)
Please don't answer more than 10 days  old question as its just a waste of time.the person never come to check old questions.

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