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Cannot sleep due to urge for sex?

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asked Aug 24, 2013 in Questions by shradhakumar00 (120 points)
edited Aug 24, 2013 by longhands1
Hi Anjali,

I have been staying away from my husband for the past 2 days due to some personal issues. Me and my daughter are staying alone in a rented apartment now.

I have sex with my customers for my work advantage. This is still going on as usual. But now-a-days I cannot sleep at night due to urge for sex with my husband. I used to have sex every night with my husband to make my mind tension free.

But now at night I am getting so tensed about office work and depressed so that I cannot sleep.



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I suppose you are not getting sleep due to separation with your husband instead of your sex urge as you mention that you are having sex with your customers. Your depression is indication that you missed your husband. it is not right that  depression is only because of the sex as you are getting sex from your customer regularly, try to sort out the issues with your husband and get him back. This is an ultimate solution to rid of your problem. It is not safe to live alone, You have to think about your child's future. it has been only two days of your separation, you can easily sort out the issue at this time after some more time the issue will become more complicated. So start the work towards the solution. may god give you strength to face this problem.
answered Aug 24, 2013 by alpesh kapdi (19,880 points)
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Dear Shradha,

 Seems you have a very high libido for sex and you seems unsatisfied even after having sex with your customers even.  You are considering the Sex as a medicine for your tension but it not that. This is an act to give pleasure to both the bodies along with it realeses some hormons which reduces your stress and you feel tension free. It is not that when you are in so much of tension you keep on having sex.

I dont know what the personal reason due to which you are staying away from your husband, but might be your relationship with customers are bothering him. You should talk to each other and resolve the matter as small quarrels are fine with husband-wife.

Dont tell her husband that you need him for sex, tell him you need him as you are feeling lonely and unsafe and will feel safe and secured in his arms. Differences are to be removed from life before they take you people for seperation. From your question i could not understand whether you love your husband or not .

Its your choice to have sex with your customers for work or not but think about the consequences you may face later in future, you can be blackmailed, What if your husband comes to know about this ?
This is called Short-cut but let me tell you using short-cuts you can not fly higher for longer times.

For time being you can use your fingers or something which can make you calm, please leave the office work tension out of the bed otherwise you will never be able to have a good and healthy relationship.

Think and Act as your future depends on this .
answered Aug 24, 2013 by fsimale4u (1,180 points)
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dear shradha
    It is true that sex is the best relaxation of mind it reduces tension and helps in sound sleep. But u can also adopt other ways to relax your mind like listen to music . music is good tool to change our mood . you can even start reading some good books ,stories or any articles on topic u like . These things help in relaxing our mind and leads to sleep .You are also having high libido for sex and do enjoy sex everyday which help u in relaxing and relieve u r tension but every day sex should always be with your trusted partner that is your husband so if he is away then please try & use other ways like music or reading i m sure it would help.
answered Aug 24, 2013 by kamikazi (720 points)
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Shradha,
I think you have high libido for sex. Since you do sex with most of your customers you should sexual addict. The best way to end this urge for sex is to find a new husband or you should find a regular sex partner who can satisfy your needs.
answered Aug 25, 2013 by anjali.chubby18 (215 points)
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You need your husband more than you need to have sex with him. But perhaps, your desire for sex is having control on your mind. You used to have sex to make your mind free. So, you still are having sex but still you're not tension free. Have you ever thought why? Does your husband gives you fuck in alien way. No, not this. Actually, it is your emotinal attachment with him that makes you tension free. It's due to your closeness, your relationship, not sex. But you've failed to understand this. Yes, sex is necessary but the love is more.
So all you need is to solve the matter which is keeping you both away from each other. It will have adverse effects on that innocent daughter of yours too. So, please solve this as soon as possible. You know in relationship, one has to loose, but by loosing they gain much more. Whatever is the problem, you can solve it. Simply say sorry to him even you're not at fault. Believe me, if this question had come from your husband, I would have told him to be sorry. So, keeping everything aside, try to solve this.
answered Aug 25, 2013 by raaz67 (835 points)
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Wow!!!! You’re a woman with a high libido. In spite of all the sex you’ve with your husband every single night I’m surprised you still desire more at your workplace. Rather than calling it ‘sex for work benefits’ call it both pleasure and work benefit’; pleasure for you and benefit for your work/profession.

Since you said you’re still continuing your escapades with your customers, I suggest you land one of your customers at your house as well, because of the absence of your husband. I presume the personal reasons you mentioned for staying apart must be the fact that he got a hint of your cheating behind him, so if this is the reason, I suggest you decide right now on what exactly you want.

Is it sex with any random guys or your marriage with your husband where you also get to enjoy sex with him? If you’re having sex every single night with your husband, I don’t see any reason why you shouldn’t have sex with him whenever you feel the need. If he has no problem giving it to you every night, I’m sure he has no issues doing the same in the mornings as well, so think about it.

As for your abnormal desires, you cannot keep having sex when ever you get horny. Try to have some self-control over your mind. If you keep continuing the same people will start calling you an insatiable ****. Try to control your desires and also try to revive your marriage which I think is falling apart because of your cheating.

Develop a new hobby and try to distance yourself from this sex obsession for a few days. Try to abstain from it and see how you’re holding up. It would be difficult in the beginning but once you tae control of your desires, you can command them at any time you so desire. If your desires reach the top, pleasure yourself with the help of a dildo/vibrator or your fingers.

answered Aug 25, 2013 by Invincible (12,575 points)
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answered Aug 26, 2013 by Anjali (7,465 points)
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Shradha,

 I really wonder how you cant getting sleep when you having sex at daily basis.. see one u must understand,  sex gives us to keep our mind free and good sleep too. So have safe sex( only with your hubby) and relaxing yourself. You will soon become good sleeper. :-) ..    my one more advice is, DO WHATEVER YOU LIKE BUT WITH YOUR HUSBAND's KNOWLEDGE.


With care,
Syed.
answered Aug 27, 2013 by syed143 (160 points)

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