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I want to add spice in sex with a threesome. How to go about it?

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asked Oct 6, 2013 in Questions by Crazy4woman30plus (145 points)
edited Oct 6, 2013 by longhands1
I am 23, male from Delhi. I am trying to add some spice in my sex life by having  a threesome with another woman and my Girlfriend.

However I am confused as I do want it to be a prostitute. I want do it with a mature woman who is married and bi. However in Indian society its very difficult to find any such woman as women are not open and expressive too much.

Please advice how to go about this?
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Crazy,

We are not here to give you tips and ideas how to fulfill your fantasy, that is for you to work out. I will tell you about the pros and cons though. 

My first question, what is the reaction of your girlfriend? Is she a party to your idea. Everywhere you talk about "I want to do it", what about her. You are either being naive or oversmart. Are you aware what a threesome entails? It is never a spur of the moment liaison. It involves meetings at a public space over a cup of coffee but rarely in a hotel room. Everything that you mention stinks of danger. Are you aware there are cops around who play moral police.

A couple who is into this class of fun, will take every precaution possible to ensure that their privacy is not compromised. You can be blackmailed by the other woman. If the meeting is at the hotel, what guarantee do you have that the moral cops do not break in? If it is at the other's woman's apartment, there is even more danger. If you can arrange to have it at your place, then I have no comments.  

I know of a few hotels, that charge by the hour. These have secret cameras that you will never trace. They even have two way nirrors that they charge their clients for watching the performance from the other room.

Threesomes are great fun to imagine, but are fraught with danger. If you were a married couple, I may have still agreed, but for lovers to think of it, requires lots of thought and patience. Have you thought about a threesome with another man? why not? because you cannot bear to imagine your girlfriend with another man. Same applies to your girlfriend. Why should she share you with another woman? What does she get out of it?

Threesomes create jealousy and fear of renunciation. Think again.

answered Oct 6, 2013 by longhands1 (73,045 points)
commented Oct 7, 2013 by Crazy4woman30plus (145 points)
Thanks longhands for your thoughts on it.

However I will take care of those things which you have mentioned above but still I will try it once because it will life time experience and I know and my gf gets very wild when she gets turn on and even somewhere down the line she also wants to go for it however I just want to do it with a mature woman who's age is b/w 35-45 becs will be experienced much and she will make us enjoy as well.
commented Oct 8, 2013 by longhands1 (73,045 points)
Crazy,

Finding a mature woman only for the sex, will not be easy. Always consider that she may not be so easy to get rid off when you desire. You are risking your future married life.
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Hi..

You need to know the reality it is not same as what you fantasize.
This blog is meant for people who need real time help in sone sexual concern. They can discuss among us being an unknown. We here never provide any kind of contact info to fullfill your day dream.
In your above question you no where mentioned "we". Being selfish you are forcing something on your girlfriend( that you never going to marry) and asuming she is agree. As you are seeking for advice my advice is "Rethink your move before you spoil everything."
If you are bored with your sexlife at the age of 23 have you ever imagine how can you stay  loyal whole life to a single lady.
If you bored stay away from sex for few months. Try to love and care her for her soul not for her body ( povided if you are serious on the relationship or dont weast you time)
Good luck!
answered Oct 6, 2013 by loveispain (530 points)
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Why you want 3some with a bi-sexual woman?  No man with straight sexual orientation like to do sex with a lesbian woman or bi.  No girl would like to share her boyfriend with another woman except a bi or lesbian woman. This clearly shows that your girlfriend is bi and she wants a woman. She is not getting one and therefore she is asking you to arrange one.  If you arrange a Bi-woman for three some then your girl friend will enjoy with her and you will be cornered. As a straight man you will not be able to enjoy sex with two bi-sexual woman. They will ignore you. In our society it is very difficult to get a bi-or lesbian sex partners but if you want 3 some with another man then plenty of men will be easily available.
answered Oct 7, 2013 by shanti200462 (2,060 points)
commented Oct 7, 2013 by Crazy4woman30plus (145 points)
Shanti

Thanks for your reply however my GF is doing all for me , she is not Bi and it was Idea to do threesome with 2 girls infact my girl and one mature woman so that we all can enjoy at fullest.

Thanks..
commented Oct 7, 2013 by loveispain (530 points)
How about a bisexual man!! Lol
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We respect your fantasy !
The question how to find ? Sometimes it's an easy task and some times it is rare as well. It doesn't matter where you are put up in Delhi but there is a risk for sure.

Outcome: you can risk your life doing such activities so simply try to be happy with what you have and enjoy.

Good Luck
answered Oct 8, 2013 by satish2011 (360 points)
edited Oct 8, 2013 by Sudeep Mohan
commented Oct 8, 2013 by Sudeep Mohan (3,100 points)

Dear Satish

We don't have a restriction on the number of words used while answering the question, please make full use of the blog space, a write up just to obtain points will not serve any purpose here, make full use of the unlimited space & pen down your complete view point with full justifications/reasoning for the questioner as well as other members to fully understand your view

commented Oct 9, 2013 by satish2011 (360 points)
dear Sudeep thank you for the information but I"m not aware of any points, this will take a short time to come upon.

thank you
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Translating your fantasies (within reason)  into reality depends on your social skills..   which guy doesnt want a 3sum ?

for most women, whatever the male fantasy, that would be their fantasy too. So It is not indian women are less open or less sexually imaginative. It is the indian men who are not 'open', or to put it accurately, unable to translate fantasies into reality.
 
Your post here suggests you are unable to rope in women in real life. So , the obvious place to continue is in social forums/ networking sites.  Weeding out the fake profiles is going to be time consuming, but if you have the will, there will be a way..
answered Oct 10, 2013 by blindMan (1,035 points)
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Dude threesome wow ... But gf and a prostitute how??
Yeah first of all its good you want to addon a great experience to your girlfriend and yours sexual life but , did you share the same thing with her ??
As it varies from person to person in my view doing this could harm your relationship as she might start thinking your encounters with prostitute previously and meanwhile your relationship as well. And may be asking her about this could blow away the trust between you
Yes I agree its difficult to find a bi woman , but what I think is people like complete privacy during intimacy and maybe your gf wont prefer this.
Nextly , you have a great chance of STDs.

So conclusion is bro dont waste money on any other women instead if you really want to spiceup , go for Kamasutra positions they are numerous and would really 'spice up'.
answered Oct 11, 2013 by geneticsalbert (615 points)

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