Sex is mutual and you should learn to please your partner. This learning does not come from books or from answers like ours. It comes from learning on the job. It comes from communication and building a bond with your partner. Communication may be verbal, where you tell each other what you want or can be non-verbal, where your actions dictate what you want.
As the male in the relationship, remember that you will tend to reach orgasm quickly, manifested in an ejaculation. For a female, she needs time to build the tempo. Spend time in foreplay. This means lots of cuddling, nibbling, holding and saying things that will put her at ease. As virgins, do not fear that you will stumble and make a mess of the situation. We all learnt the hard way and given a second chance will do a better job.
Read the various questions on this Site especially Discussions, where we have given TIPS on pleasing a woman. You can search for these Topics, by typing key words in the Search Box on the Right hand corner.
One thing you should ensure is to keep a packet of condoms ready. I know, you dont intend having intercourse, but the flow of the moment may sweep you aside. So better be safe than sorry. We get fair number of questions from Readers about their worries of having had sex without protection.
Having sex for the first time is not only messy but also painful, more so for the female. How do you know she is a virgin? Because she told you. Is her hymen intact? If not, use your fingers and a lot of patience with lubrication to break it first.
All the Best.